Girlfriend pissed off about me playing Poker *DELETED*

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[astroglide]

that's a difficult, but common situation.

i think i speak for most of us when i say that the best play is to post a bi-curious ad on craigslist and see where things go. just keep an open mind, and be safe. most of us have been where you are and had to make the change ourselves. there is be plenty of support (and companionship!) to be found among the men here.

[Perseus]

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Well...

Poker is really starting to put a strain on things with the girlfriend. We have been great friends since we were younger and about 2 years ago we took things to the next level.

Anyways, due to my success in poker lately, I have been spending a lot more time at the casino and playing online. Ive won a few MTTs, and as of a few months ago have turned into a consistent winner in the cash games. I work full time In a office and like to spend some of my free time playing poker, however my girlfriend is really against this.

Sure she loved it when I won a live MTT tournament and bought her a 600$ dollar coach purse out of the blue, but I dont win every time. I ended up losing 450$ in a session and I told her about it and she lost it. Even though i had won 600 the night before..

She wanted to end our relationship and said I need help, that I have a gambling problem. I dont think I have a gambling problem as I keep records and in the long run im ahead a few thousand and Ive only been playing poker for about 6 months.

I keep a poker bankroll and Im smart about it, I dont use money I cant afford to lose in poker, I always pay my morgtage and bills on time and have a good amount of money to spare for going out and things like that.

The problem isnt that im spending too much time with poker and ignoring her, she just really does not like gambling and cant handle hearing about the swings..anyways it has really started to put our relationship in trouble ..and I was wondering if anyone had any advice on how to calm things with her. To help her understand what and why im doing this..

I love poker! ever since I messed up my knee and have been unable to play competetive sports its been like a saving grace for me for entertainment. But I dont want to lose her.

ugh!, anyways sorry if this post was poorly written, as im at work right now and posted this up quickly.

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Don't ruin your relationships to play poker. When I first started playing my girlfriend was against it initially, so I taught her how to play and when we were bored we played heads up. She was skeptical at first but eventually realized it is a game of skill and then didn't mind me playing so much as long as I never complained about winning.

Also, don't brag about your wins by buying her things. If 450 is a lot for you to lose then you probably shouldn't be buying her 600 dollar things, although it is a nice gesture. You will find that most people don't understand variance, and once you start telling people you won 600 bucks they will expect you to win 600 bucks on a regular basis and won't understand how you can lose 450. Also, if you tell people you are winning you will be pressured to win and you might end up playing outside your bankroll.

If you really want to show her you're a consistent winner I suggest learning to play ring games, keep your data recorded in pokertracker, and then next month show her "look i've won x amount of dollars over x amount of hands".

If you only take one thing out of this then remember your priorities should be:

1. Family
2. Girlfriend/Friends
3. Job
4. Hobbies (poker/sports)

If you lose this relationship because of poker you will regret it. Try to show her why you like to play, why you can make money in the long run, and how she will always come first. The tables will always be there when you have extra time.

gl,

Jon

[Perseus]

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that's a difficult, but common situation.

i think i speak for most of us when i say that the best play is to post a bi-curious ad on craigslist and see where things go. just keep an open mind, and be safe. most of us have been where you are and had to make the change ourselves. there is be plenty of support (and companionship!) to be found among the men here.

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This works too.

[sthief09]

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[sfer]

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We have been great friends since we were younger and about 2 years ago we took things to the next level.

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I am totally underusing that phrase.

Today, before my shower, I sat down on the can and took it to the next level.

I taught my girlfriend how to play also, it is actually pretty fun to play with her, although we can read each other so well.

[James282]

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I taught my girlfriend how to play also, it is actually pretty fun to play with her, although we can read each other so well.

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Isn't that the cutest. I bet you complete eachother's sentences and call eachother schmoopy also.
-James

[EStreet20]

Dump her, regardless of the situation.

Good luck,
Matt

[Duffman]

It's so much cooler replying to a post that's deleted..

Next time she complains tell her it's better that you go out and play cards, rather than sleep with hookers. And try to make it into a threat.