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10-18-2005, 08:16 PM
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Re: Girlfriend pissed off about me playing Poker *DELETED*
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I would rather spend time with my GF than with a bunch of young WPT-wannabe's or cranky old guys at a casino. [/ QUOTE ] What would you do if she told you that you had to quit poker and get a job? 
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#22
10-18-2005, 08:35 PM
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Re: Girlfriend pissed off about me playing Poker
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[ QUOTE ] We have been great friends since we were younger and about 2 years ago we took things to the next level. [/ QUOTE ] I am totally underusing that phrase. Today, before my shower, I sat down on the can and took it to the next level. [/ QUOTE ] You officially have my vote as the funiest poster of all time. My family thinks i am strange for laughing at the computer.
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#23
10-18-2005, 08:43 PM
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Re: Girlfriend pissed off about me playing Poker *DELETED*
Well...that's a different situation than the OP who said he has a regular job and likes to spend A LOT of his spare-time online and at the casino.
I don't think it's jumping to an extreme conclusion that he is not spending much time with his girl. Your question for my situation specifically isn't quite relevant because it isn't likely to happen. She doesn't understand the poker thing at all but trusts my judgement to not sit there and blow away all my money if poker turns for the worst somehow or if I totally suck. I have stated on here AND to her that I don't know if I'll play poker for the next year or 5 years or 10 years or what. I am NOT committed to playing this for the rest of my life....but it's also possible that I could for all I know. I have told her that I would have no qualms about going back to a regular 'job' if the situation were to present itself. This would include EITHER online-poker no longer being worthwhile/profitable for me OR a job-offer coming along that I was interested in taking (and that I thought paid decently). She has her concerns of course...but I am very impressed with her ability to not be judgemental about it (obviously many people ARE pretty judgemental). If she WERE to tell me that she would be more comfortable if I got a regular job than I would strongly consider it. A year or two ago I don't know if I would have reacted that way....but I would certainly have listened to her. I have asked her if she would want me to get a real job and she has said that it's my life and she wants me to be happy with what I'm doing. She's also keeping her fingers crossed that that means that I don't go broke and leave her as the main-income for our future family. Okay - I'm still dodging it a bit. If she were to actually DEMAND that I get a regular job that would pay $35k or less a year (which is pretty much what it would be if i got back into radio or dealing blackjack) and I felt that it was truly in my best interest to continue on my poker-path than I would insist that this IS what I want to do and what I think is best. If she were to say "I'm walking out the door unless you stop playing poker completely" then I think we might actually be over (assuming I was still a winning player and had valid reason to think that I should continue playing poker). This is NOT because I value poker more than her (because I don't) but because it would be such a dramatic change from her previous attitude that I would then be pretty convinced that I was no longer with the same person really. I don't believe that either person in a relationship should make DEMANDS on the other person on how to change. It's something they should discuss and be willing to work on both together AND on their own. We're there to make each other stronger...not to boss each other around and give each other demands and ultimatums. This might be somewhat hypocritical because I know that if she OR i became a total drunk or cocaine-addict or something that either one of would DEMAND that the other one better do EVERYTHING to lose that habit or else it's over. But I know full well that she understands that poker is NOT the same as drinking or cocaine use (at least in my case). I know that if my mom can handle the fact that I play poker for a living that it can't be THAT freaking bad. And I know that my GF understands that I'm very careful with my bankroll. Those are some of my rambling thoughts on this topic. I don't think I would want to date someone who was so closed-minded (which obviously includes a LOT of people) but I admit that there are probably about a zillion exceptions out there. Tough question.
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#24
10-18-2005, 08:57 PM
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Tough question. [/ QUOTE ] Yes it is. I know from your prior posts that it doesn't apply to your RL situation, I meant it only as a hypothetical. For myself, I'd have to wonder how much she really loved me if she wanted to force me to do something I didn't want to do, and was willing to walk out over it.
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10-18-2005, 09:08 PM
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Re: Girlfriend pissed off about me playing Poker *DELETED*
exactly.
Before I got into poker (I had barely started playing online) I was VERY briefly seeing a girl who's Dad was a gambling addict....lost their house on some football game when she was a girl or something like that. She is VERY anti-gambling because of some really crappy child-hood memories and it's understandable. She knew that I was playing poker (she calls and asks 'hey...what'ya doing?' and I say I'm playing an online-poker tournament or something...and then I get the story). Because she was so uncomfortable with gambling, and imo had good reason to be, I would have been willing to say "hey....if we actually go long-term I'm perfectly willing to cut-out poker and blackjack even though I'm at a mathematical advantage."
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#26
10-18-2005, 10:41 PM
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When my girlfriend wont let me play poker, I slap her sorry ass and tell her to get in the laundry and wash my clothes. Chicks! can't live with em pass, the beer nuts! (And please don't show her this post) hehe
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10-18-2005, 10:51 PM
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Re: Girlfriend pissed off about me playing Poker
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[ QUOTE ] [ QUOTE ] We have been great friends since we were younger and about 2 years ago we took things to the next level. [/ QUOTE ] I am totally underusing that phrase. Today, before my shower, I sat down on the can and took it to the next level. [/ QUOTE ] You officially have my vote as the funiest poster of all time. My family thinks i am strange for laughing at the computer. [/ QUOTE ] i laughed out loud while my roomate and girlfriend were making out on the bed across the room. i explained top them why i laughed and they said nothing and went back to making out. i reminded them i am capable of murder.
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10-19-2005, 09:16 AM
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Re: Girlfriend pissed off about me playing Poker *DELETED*
I used to have similar problems. Two things:
1) Learn about variance/SD/winrate, etc. Then drill it into your girlfriend (the stats, that is [img]/images/graemlins/wink.gif[/img]). Make her understand you can't win everytime, but you are an overall winner. 2) Spend some quality time with her and treat her with some of your poker winnings. The solution really is that simple.
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