OK, these are the hands that may be costing me an extra 2BBs each time

[golferbrent]

How bad is this player? I think some consideration to capping is in order. Biggest problem here is that you played the flop passively. I 3 bet flop most times here OOP and only hand on the flop that I would be concerned about would be 7-7.
Villian could be going for the 3 bet to check through a worse queen here. Sounds like the game is tight and I don't see a call with 10-8s preflop to be likely. He could CC with 7-7 or 6-6 (which he got frisky with on the flop). However, in that 20 game q-q and 9-9 are 3 betting preflop and as such he didn't. Other hands to consider are A-A and K-K played slowly preflop. However, with your hand containing an A I would discount this likely hood.

In the heat of battle I would be hard pressed to four bet and would probably just call down.