How do I get my girlfriend to stop asking about results?

betgo · #1 07-20-2005, 10:49 AM

How do I get my girlfriend to stop asking how much I am up or down for the day? She will ask me how I am doing and I will say OK. She will say that means I lost and will ask how much. Then she will start naming figures and asking which is right. I get really mad. She then says I get cranky when I lose. I keep telling her that I really don't want to discuss how much I am up or down for the day. It is not good for my game to focus on that or have to report it to someone. She says that poker is all I focus on all day and she wants to be a part of it. She says she wants to be excited when I have a good result. I do tell her when I have a final table in a tournament or something. However, I don't want to discuss how I am doing on the day. My strength is playing MTTs and I usually am going to be down on the day, because of their speculative nature. This is a type of work where there are ups and downs, It is not something you want to focus on or let it effect your play.

sfer · #2 07-20-2005, 10:52 AM

I told my girlfriend to ask how I'm playing, not if I'm winning.

evilganz · #3 07-20-2005, 11:26 AM

Either

1) Explain the concept of expectancy to her--that you're worth $x per hour in the game, but your results on any given day could be anything

or

2) Tell her. If you're really a winning player, you should be able to treat your losing days the same as winning ones, just as hours in the office. Who cares what your results are on any given day?

And, btw, it does sound like you get cranky when you lose--that just can't be good for your long-term poker health.

Jingleheimer · #4 07-20-2005, 11:42 AM

Sorry you lost today.

MaxPower · #5 07-20-2005, 11:43 AM

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I told my girlfriend to ask how I'm playing, not if I'm winning.

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So do you tell her when you donk it up?

sfer · #6 07-20-2005, 12:07 PM

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I told my girlfriend to ask how I'm playing, not if I'm winning.

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So do you tell her when you donk it up?

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She's heard me say, "Wow, I play bad," a lot.

Warren Whitmore · #7 07-20-2005, 12:24 PM

If your win rate is $20 per hour and you play 5 hours. Tell her you won $100.

Bluffoon · #8 07-20-2005, 12:40 PM

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How do I get my girlfriend to stop asking how much I am up or down for the day? She will ask me how I am doing and I will say OK. She will say that means I lost and will ask how much. Then she will start naming figures and asking which is right. I get really mad. She then says I get cranky when I lose. I keep telling her that I really don't want to discuss how much I am up or down for the day. It is not good for my game to focus on that or have to report it to someone. She says that poker is all I focus on all day and she wants to be a part of it. She says she wants to be excited when I have a good result. I do tell her when I have a final table in a tournament or something. However, I don't want to discuss how I am doing on the day. My strength is playing MTTs and I usually am going to be down on the day, because of their speculative nature. This is a type of work where there are ups and downs, It is not something you want to focus on or let it effect your play.

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Dump her and get a girlfriend who is not a nag.

sekrah · #9 07-20-2005, 12:42 PM

I have the same problems at home.. It's killed my game..

It's one of the reasons why I don't play ring games online anymore.

She's even killing my MTT play lately.. She needs choked.

chesspain · #10 07-20-2005, 12:55 PM

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How do I get my girlfriend to stop asking how much I am up or down for the day? She will ask me how I am doing and I will say OK. She will say that means I lost and will ask how much. Then she will start naming figures and asking which is right.

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The next time she refuses to cease questioning you about how much you won or lost this session, just ask her how much she weighs today.