Roommate's troubles

Yobz · #1 04-13-2005, 02:08 AM

Basically, roommate and his gf are in a long relationship, gf goes abroad this semester, he cheats on her. Does he tell her? If she finds out and he doesn't tell her, hes f'ed...
What do you think?

Dead · #2 04-13-2005, 02:09 AM

He should tell her.

If I did this to a girlfriend, I would tell her. It's the +EV move. Tell him to beg her forgiveness-not that he will get it.

Dantes · #3 04-13-2005, 02:10 AM

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PoBoy321 · #4 04-13-2005, 02:14 AM

Ummmm, I'm gonna go out on a limb here, but if he's cheating on her and she's going abroad, he should break up with her.

IronDragon1 · #5 04-13-2005, 02:14 AM

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Basically, roommate and his gf are in a long relationship, gf goes abroad this semester, he cheats on her. Does he tell her? If she finds out and he doesn't tell her, hes f'ed...
What do you think?

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People don't keep their damn mouths shut anyways so he might as well tell her.

pshreck · #6 04-13-2005, 02:16 AM

Um, is he really gonna like marry this chick or anything after he already cheated on her? I think the actual right thing to do is break up with her, and avoid telling her if possible.

einbert · #7 04-13-2005, 02:18 AM

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Um, is he really gonna like marry this chick or anything after he already cheated on her?

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If he wanted that kind of relationship I seriously doubt he would have cheated on her in the first place.

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I think the actual right thing to do is break up with her, and avoid telling her if possible.

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Agreed.

Yobz · #8 04-13-2005, 02:22 AM

oops, left out a critical part. They agreed that they can see other people during this time, but he still feels like he will be f'ed if he tells her... (he might eventually wanna marry her)

IronDragon1 · #9 04-13-2005, 02:32 AM

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oops, left out a critical part. They agreed that they can see other people during this time, but he still feels like he will be f'ed if he tells her... (he might eventually wanna marry her)

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Well in that case the point is (almost) moot and the blame shits to the girl.

We don't live in Victorian times girl, people have sex for reasons other than procreation.

If any hurt results from him divulging the fact that he engaged in an extrarelational tryst to her than she only has herself to blame since making this agreement all but sanctioned him permition to do so.

Stuey · #10 04-13-2005, 02:58 AM

He only has to tell her if the sex was unprotected and he does not get tested prior to having sex with the longterm gf. Lots of things are best left unsaid. If she hears it second hand she won't believe it unless he admits it. If a chick loves you she will believe anything. Deny, deny, deny.

Very good chance she is putting out abroad so tell him not to feel so bad. Best result for him is she comes back and confesses to having a fling. And he says it's ok cuz we agreed we could. But tells her he had a chance to have a fling but chickened out at the last second as he started to think of her! If the guilt does not kill her you can do what you want with her from then on.