Dating a girl who has a kid.....

[meHIGHyouLOW]

Background: I met this great girl(19years old) about 4 months ago, she is about everything I can wish for: cute, smart, positive, fun etc.. go figure. Certainly seems to be a girl who I wish to spend little longer together with.

Anyway, Im 18 and just found out some great joys, like going to bars hitting girls etc. and other half of me just wants to have fun, I never thought I would be even couple of months with this girl.
What bothers me is that she has a kid, the kid is little over one year old and his dad was some dickhead who dumped the girl whe he heard she is preagnent.
Her parents are very supportive in both terms of money and taking care of the kid, but still im not sure what I want to do. I certainly would like to continue the relationship, but it would be offcourse little more serious when there is also a kid. And would in future naturally limit my chances of "having fun".


Bottom line: I dont wanna be a dick but I still fear little the future, because break ups happen.


Help me! ( or should I write to Dr. Phil [img]/images/graemlins/wink.gif[/img] )

[Rick Diesel]

We will need pictures (of the girl, not the kid)

[junkmail3]

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What bothers me is that she has a kid, the kid is little over one year old and his dad was some dickhead who dumped the girl whe he heard she is preagnent.


...And would in future naturally limit my chances of "having fun".



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You could be dickhead #2!

[Soul Daddy]

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Im 18 and just found out some great joys, like going to bars hitting girls

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I can see how that might be fun, but I don't think you're supposed to do this.

[meHIGHyouLOW]

Yeah thats certainly what I dont wanna be.. thats why I think now is last possible time to think about this whole case, and what I wanna do. [img]/images/graemlins/blush.gif[/img]

[Bluffoon]

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Background: I met this great girl(19years old) about 4 months ago, she is about everything I can wish for: cute, smart, positive, fun etc.. go figure. Certainly seems to be a girl who I wish to spend little longer together with.

Anyway, Im 18 and just found out some great joys, like going to bars hitting girls etc. and other half of me just wants to have fun, I never thought I would be even couple of months with this girl.
What bothers me is that she has a kid, the kid is little over one year old and his dad was some dickhead who dumped the girl whe he heard she is preagnent.
Her parents are very supportive in both terms of money and taking care of the kid, but still im not sure what I want to do. I certainly would like to continue the relationship, but it would be offcourse little more serious when there is also a kid. And would in future naturally limit my chances of "having fun".


Bottom line: I dont wanna be a dick but I still fear little the future, because break ups happen.


Help me! ( or should I write to Dr. Phil [img]/images/graemlins/wink.gif[/img] )

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If she just wants someone to hang out with and you don't mind having a baby around then it doesn't sound like a problem. If she is looking for a permanent partner and father figure for her baby you may not be the right guy for her. It doesn't sound like you are ready to have a baby in your life. If you both want different things from the relationship do her a favor and break things off.

[The Stranger]

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Im 18 and just found out some great joys, like going to bars hitting girls

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I can see how that might be fun, but I don't think you're supposed to do this.

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hey, maybe they're cool with that in Finland.

[LALDAAS]

Been there, done that, dont do it, run!!!!

I dated a single mother, in fact, I was engaged to one. Its not worth it. leave, leave right NOW!

Get some tail first [img]/images/graemlins/wink.gif[/img] but then run! run very fast. Dont look back.

[HesseJam]

You´re not ready yet.

I would play it fair and tell the girl that you are not sure if you missed the "fun" and that you cannot give a firm committment (if that's what she wants!?). She feels probably more vulnerable than you because she has a kid and might need that committment. But maybe she would like to have some "fun" too if she did not have the child?

You both are still awfully young.

[schwza]

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Get some tail first

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don't shoplift the pootie from a single mother.