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Paying the bill poll
This poll was spawned from the following statement by gonores in the ML post:
[ QUOTE ] FWIW, I insist on picking up the whole bill, every time. [/ QUOTE ] Yeah, I always pick up the bill on a date and a fair amount of the time in general as well, 'cause, well, whatever. But that brings up another question, specifically related to first through third dates. If a girl has absolutely no intention to pay and you both know it, is it better for her to: |
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Re: Paying the bill poll
I've had a change of heart on this question over the last few years. I don't know why. I used to be really annoyed when the bill would come and the girl would not even make any sort of effort or indication that she might be considering to pay. The slow move to the purse or the slow reach towards the bill or asking how much or whatever, well, I appreciated the gesture.
Lately, however, I've switched sides. There are some women who like to pay on the first date. Now, I've never actually had them pay, but their standard practice is to pay and they are expecting to pay. With them, we always agree to have her buy drinks afterwards or something and everything is fine. I'm perfectly fine with all of that. However, I now find myself annoyed at girls who know that I'm going to pay the bill and have absolutely no intent of paying, but make some little half-hearted act like they were actually thinking of paying. |
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Re: Paying the bill poll
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I now find myself annoyed at girls who know that I'm going to pay the bill and have absolutely no intent of paying, but make some little half-hearted act like they were actually thinking of paying. [/ QUOTE ] It is, after all, a gesture. If it really bothers you, the next time she reaches for her purse say, "Oh, you got it?" On a side note, I once got so pissed off at a chick before we even made it to dinner that I ended up taking her to McDonalds. I would have taken her home, but I was hungry. |
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Re: Paying the bill poll
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What should she do when the check comes? [/ QUOTE ] Are you crazy? What makes you think we should/are going to dictate what a girl should or should not do in the context of a date? Here is how a date works: Girl does ______. Guy is supposed to figure what this means and react appropriately. Here is what the girl may be trying to communicate to you for both courses of action in your example. - Girl goes for the purse - "I have daddy issues" - Girl does nothing - "My girlfriends say I shouldn't be dating masked men." In a world where the meanings of actions are easy to understand, I prefer she go for the purse. It says (remember we are in a world with no hidden meanings) that she isn't needy. |
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Re: Paying the bill poll
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In a world where the meanings of actions are easy to understand, I prefer she go for the purse. It says (remember we are in a world with no hidden meanings) [/ QUOTE ] OK, lemme know when you make it back from Fantasyland. |
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Re: Paying the bill poll
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It is, after all, a gesture. [/ QUOTE ] See, that's the thing. It's not really a gesture. It's a fake gesture. Paying for the first round of drinks at wherever we go afterwards (regardless of how much that is in comparison to the price of the dinner) or something like that is a real gesture. You know what I'm saying. [ QUOTE ] If it really bothers you, the next time she reaches for her purse say, "Oh, you got it?" [/ QUOTE ] Oh, man, that's a good one. I hope to have a date that's bad enough and clearly has no future possibilities sometime in the near future so I can pull that one out. [ QUOTE ] On a side note, I once got so pissed off at a chick before we even made it to dinner that I ended up taking her to McDonalds. I would have taken her home, but I was hungry. [/ QUOTE ] Nice. |
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Re: Paying the bill poll
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It's a fake gesture. Paying for the first round of drinks at wherever we go afterwards (regardless of how much that is in comparison to the price of the dinner) or something like that is a real gesture. You know what I'm saying. [/ QUOTE ] Good point. The other night a I took a girl to an ice-cream place after dinner, and she paid. It wasn't close to the price of dinner, but nice. [ QUOTE ] I hope to have a date that's bad enough and clearly has no future possibilities sometime in the near future so I can pull that one out. [/ QUOTE ] That's absolutely TERRIBLE, yet I completely identify. |
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been there done that
it wasn't even the fake paying the bill thing that got to me. it was everything. first date was slightly annoying, so I chalked it up to a rough week at school. second date was worse and filled with those fake type gestures and indications. third date was made (on my part, at least) solely to do the double fake paying the bill thing. it worked, I got dinner and never spoke to her again.
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Trip Report: Fantasyland
Fantasyland rocks!
I got the girl some carnations for our date...because they looked pretty and I thought girls liked pretty things...not because I was secretly trying to convey how deep my feelings were for her. I took her to nice restaurant. Not because I wanted to impress her by showing my indifference to paying for a $100 meal, but because I like the food and the atmosphere. I ordered the filet because I like filet. She ordered duck because she likes duck. I got the bottle of wine the waiter recommended to us because I trusted his judgment. We talked about trivial topics like sports and music because talking about such things is fun! I paid the bill because I felt it was my priviledge to take this striking young lady on a date. She allowed me to pay the bill because allowing me to pay the bill would be economically wise. We went for a walk and carried on with our trivial conversation because we enjoyed it. She said she wanted to have sex because sex is fun. I wanted to have sex because sex is fun. We had sex because sex is fun. I didn't stay the night because staying the night is not fun. She did not want me to stay the night because me staying the night would not be fun for her either. I called her the next day because talking to her is fun. |
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Re: Trip Report: Fantasyland
OK, now someone needs to write out what was really going on throughout that date. [img]/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img]
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