Girlfriend Trouble?

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She already rejected this guy once, she obviously doesn't have any romantic feelings for him. I don't see the problem. Besides, if she's going to cheat on you, she can do it just as easily right underneath your nose.

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Wrong, wrong, wrong. In fact this trip has a ton of factors that would enable this girl to convince herself she is interested in this guy even if she isn't. A new and exciting experience in a strange place, where she feels close to the one person she has known and trusts? Come on, this is like shooting fish in a barrel, even for a chooch as this guy has been described.

Even if she decides not to go this does not bode well for you. She is testing limits here and may be looking for an out.

As others have stated, I would tell her point blank that this would put your relationship on hold at the very least. I don't know if this is the kind of girl you can take a hiatus with, if you are interested in this option consider it.

NT

[CPSUpoker]

Let me add a little tid bit more...

I told her that if she waited a couple months, during the summer, I would take her to Europe myself.

I have been there twice, and I know my way around. This other guy friend has not.

She commented that she'd love to go with me, moreso than with him, but she needs to get out of this place as soon as she can, for a bit. She's lived here her whole life.

[MagicMan08]

VEGAS!!!! its super cheap too

[utmt40]

Ok then tell her that you two are going and if she doesnt agree and says she is going with him then dump her ass. Its that simple.

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She commented that she'd love to go with me, moreso than with him, but she needs to get out of this place as soon as she can, for a bit. She's lived here her whole life.

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That's the topper for me. If she cannot wait a few more months to go with her boyfriend instead of just a "friend" I think that is a clear sign of her lack of committment to your relationship. Move on as painlessly as possible.

[HopeydaFish]

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Let me add a little tid bit more...

I told her that if she waited a couple months, during the summer, I would take her to Europe myself.

I have been there twice, and I know my way around. This other guy friend has not.

She commented that she'd love to go with me, moreso than with him, but she needs to get out of this place as soon as she can, for a bit. She's lived here her whole life.

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Okay, that changes things. Now you *really* need to break up with her. That's a total BS excuse for her to leave earlier, especially when she knows that it is bothering you.

Maybe she *wants* you to break up with her? Sometimes women put us into these types of situations in order for us to be the one to do the break-up. If she broke up with you first, she'd look like a [censored] because it would look like she did it solely in order to travel "unencumbered" through Europe with some other dude. However, if you break up with her, it's a different story.

[Publos Nemesis]

three months is not a long time. is she great? if not, then forgetta 'bout it. seriously. 3 months is not even a semester. she would be goin on the trip for longer than you have been seeing each other. that tells me she has less invested in your relationship than she does in her friendship with this guy (who definitely wants to bang her). I mean, would you go on a trip with a chick for 3.5 months that you didn't want to bang if you were a single guy???? what would be the point? you would rather go with another guy so you could find bitches to bang in europe, or you would go with a girl you wanted to bang.

[man]

I'm normally a pretty understanding guy when it comes to these things. I try to think things through in a rational manner and find the solution that will be best for everyone involved.

but in this case I would say there is no [censored] way she could go backpacking through Europe with this dude and expect me to be waiting at home for her with a thumb up my ass. girls can be so freaking naive. if she wants to be with you, there is no reason for her to even consider this. I'm not saying you should tell her she can't go. just tell her that if she decides to go then it's over. but tell her in a nice way.

why is she even considering this, anyway? that's incredibly disrepectful, even if you've only been going out for three months.

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why is she even considering this, anyway? that's incredibly disrepectful, even if you've only been going out for three months.

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That's what I was wondering. That she announced she was bored and needed to get out of town and wanted to go backpack with a male companion seems totally disrespectful and selfish.

Even if she doesn't intend to cheat does she realize she's causing you pain and worry?

[chesspain]

I say if you she goes with him say "Bon Voyage"--for good!