to the restaurant people...fine line: stalking vs. initiative

[sledghammer]

....or THERES A FINE LINE BETWEEN STALKING AND INITIATIVE.

so i met this girl thursday night. we rapped for quite some time, and we really hit it off. Unfortunately, her friend dragged her out of the bar 'all of the sudden.' I managed to get her name at the last minute, and i know(from our discussion) that she works as a line cook in an upscale restaurant next door to the bar. I didn't get her number. How appropriate is it to contact a restaurant and ask for a cook? is the hostess going to connect me or tell me to [censored] off? is this appropriate?

[phixxx]

Pull a taxi driver.

[radek2166]

Stalker.

[Arnfinn Madsen]

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Stalker.

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Ok, I officially declare myself a stalker. I would not hesitate to call there and ask her for her number. Why do people think that is bad? (Of course if she would not give me the number I would not call again or go to that restaurant to look for her)

Never thought that these things could be considered bad until reading OOT, and I still don't get it. That you actively try to get what you want instead of just letting life happen has never been bad in my book.

[radek2166]

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Stalker.

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Ok, I officially declare myself a stalker. I would not hesitate to call there and ask her for her number. Why do people think that is bad? (Of course if she would not give me the number I would not call again or go to that restaurant to look for her)

Never thought that these things could be considered bad until reading OOT, and I still don't get it. That you actively try to get what you want instead of just letting life happen has never been bad in my book.

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I really think their is nothign wrong with calling or going in. It just seems noadays people over react to [censored].

[hyde]

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Stalker.

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Ok, I officially declare myself a stalker. I would not hesitate to call there and ask her for her number. Why do people think that is bad? (Of course if she would not give me the number I would not call again or go to that restaurant to look for her)

Never thought that these things could be considered bad until reading OOT, and I still don't get it. That you actively try to get what you want instead of just letting life happen has never been bad in my book.

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I really think their is nothign wrong with calling or going in. It just seems noadays people over react to [censored].

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She is working the line. hot sweaty, no make up. nnot only does she not want to see you like this, you are not ready to see her like this.
You give a note to the hostess;
"I really enjoyed talking with you the other night and wished I had asked for your number. Here's mine. I hope we can talk again. Plus I'm curious what you look like naked."

or you can leave out the naked part.

[Guy Incognito]

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That you actively try to get what you want instead of just letting life happen has never been bad in my book.

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It's not bad, at least not to anyone whose opinion matters anyway.

Leaving a message with the hostess sounds like the best play... assuming she will actually GET the message.

[edfurlong]

This will catch her [censored] at work 90 percent of the time.

Isnt your play obvious? You've got to do the stake-out

[diebitter]

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Isnt your play obvious? You've got to do the stake-out

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and post the pictures/video here.