Argument over $15 (long)

[gorie]

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Is everybody missing the part about OP working like a [censored] coolie for the privilege of a [censored] Subway sandwich? If anything, OP should be the creditor in this deal. I can't imagine being friends with someone like this. If it's really worth it to him, I guess he should pay him and then ask him what the hell his problem is.

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if a friend asked you to help them move , what do you expect in return ? i'm curious.

[durron597]

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I would have paid the $15 in the first place, but told him what a douche he is as I was handing over the money.

I couldn't imagine keeping friends who are this cheap.

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[imported_anacardo]

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if a friend asked you to help them move , what do you expect in return ? i'm curious.

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It wouldn't be about the money. I cultivate the sort of friends who'd at least buy me a real meal and a few brews to wash it down with, and nobody'd have to twist anybody's arm or indeed say anything. Of course I'd be in. Good friendships are built on mutual generosity. This guy [censored] up by A) not mentioning his girlfriend's gear until too late, B) rewarding his friends' time and effort with schlock and C) still managing to hit him with a bill at the end. This is not the way friends get friends to help them move.

[STLantny]

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if a friend asked you to help them move , what do you expect in return ? i'm curious.

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It wouldn't be about the money. I cultivate the sort of friends who'd at least buy me a real meal and a few brews to wash it down with, and nobody'd have to twist anybody's arm or indeed say anything. Of course I'd be in. Good friendships are built on mutual generosity. This guy [censored] up by A) not mentioning his girlfriend's gear until too late, B) rewarding his friends' time and effort with schlock and C) still managing to hit him with a bill at the end. This is not the way friends get friends to help them move.

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ya, anacardo, you said what I was thinking.

[Reef]

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I would have paid the $15 in the first place, but told him what a douche he is as I was handing over the money.

I couldn't imagine keeping friends who are this cheap.

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pay and then ask him for [10*(your hourly) - 120] in wages for helping him move.

[gorie]

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if a friend asked you to help them move , what do you expect in return ? i'm curious.

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It wouldn't be about the money. I cultivate the sort of friends who'd at least buy me a real meal and a few brews to wash it down with, and nobody'd have to twist anybody's arm or indeed say anything. Of course I'd be in. Good friendships are built on mutual generosity. This guy [censored] up by A) not mentioning his girlfriend's gear until too late, B) rewarding his friends' time and effort with schlock and C) still managing to hit him with a bill at the end. This is not the way friends get friends to help them move.

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i agree. but i think this guy is being pretty generous to store his stuff for 3 months and only asks for help moving and $15 at the end of it all. i mean the OPs stuff was being moved too, it's a little different than if his friend jsut asked for help moving and not considering the part about his own stuff being there and needing to be moved also.

[YourFoxyGrandma]

I pretty much agree with Gorie on everything.

[imported_anacardo]

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i agree. but i think this guy is being pretty generous to store his stuff for 3 months and only asks for help moving and $15 at the end of it all. i mean the OPs stuff was being moved too, it's a little different than if his friend jsut asked for help moving and not considering the part about his own stuff being there and needing to be moved also.

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The apartment was vacant for all/most of that time, if I read OP correctly.

His own stuff was negligible; he could've easily moved it himself in one car.

Bottom line, I complain about any of this, though I would think less of my "friend," except for the attempt on the end to treat this as a money proposition into which OP somehow owes, rather than friends helping friends. At this point he's out of line, and he oughta know it. (I'unno if you've tried to hire a ditchdigger lately, but labor is expensive.)

A good friend could have this explained to them.
A crappy friend wouldn't even be worth the $15.
A "meh" friend, which is what this sounds like, should probably get the money, then be quietly phased out.

[imported_anacardo]

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I pretty much agree with Gorie on everything.

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Who doesn't? You're all stormtroopers under the Cherry Banner.

<font color="white"> I'm not even sure what I mean by that. </font>

[YourFoxyGrandma]

Haha, nicely put.