Meeting women online - Page 4

jakethebake · #1 10-12-2005, 03:34 PM

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During your conversations did she ever mention if shes done this before? If she never has she might have been nervous or whatever and it wouldn't hurt to send her a message the next time you see her on- Just 1 saying hello. if she doesn't respond you know where you stand for sure.
If she has met other people before do nothing- if she got busy suddenly last night then she will IM and apoligize.
If you don't know assume your done, and don't message her if she messages you, be yourself without bringing it up specifically.

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More good advice!!!

man · #2 10-12-2005, 03:36 PM

she (a) is weirded out by the concept of calling a guy she met online, and is thusly taking her time, or (b) totally forgot about it. she probably totally forgot. but either way the best thing to do is forget about her and go to happy hour (not necessarily in that order). I would also stop meeting women online, because you're drawing from a much less desirable pool of people, and the chances of her turning out to be who you hope she is are very low.

jakethebake · #3 10-12-2005, 03:39 PM

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she (a) is weirded out by the concept of calling a guy she met online, and is thusly taking her time, or (b) totally forgot about it. she probably totally forgot. but either way the best thing to do is forget about her and go to happy hour (not necessarily in that order). I would also stop meeting women online, because you're drawing from a much less desirable pool of people, and the chances of her turning out to be who you hope she is are very low.

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This may or may not be true. But don't do anything give her expectations to live up to, ot she may be worried about it. Don't push. Let her take her time or you'll just chase her away. [img]/images/graemlins/tongue.gif[/img]

tolbiny · #4 10-12-2005, 03:44 PM

"I would also stop meeting women online, because you're drawing from a much less desirable pool of people"

This is bullcrap, have youmet most women out there? 90% of the population is undateable!!!

Realistically though there are pros and cons to internet dating. A major pro is that you know that the women there are looking, none of this buying a girl drinks until her boyfriend shows up crap, or getting cockblocked by her fat friend. You also have a larger pool in that you can pay specific attention to anyone of them, and not have to directly compete with music, smoke, noise, work or whatever goes on.

One piece of advice though- when you talk to a girl the first time no matter how well it goes don't let the conversation go over 20 mins- just don't.

#5 10-12-2005, 03:49 PM

JERRY: Elaine, what percentage of people would you say are good looking?

ELAINE: Twenty-five percent.

JERRY: Twenty-five percent, you say? No way! It's like 4 to 6 percent. It's a twenty to one shot.

ELAINE: You're way off.

JERRY: Way off? Have you been to the motor vehicle bureau? It's like a leper colony down there.

ELAINE: So what you are saying is that 90 to 95 percent of the population is undateable?

JERRY: UNDATEABLE!

ELAINE: Then how are all these people getting together?

JERRY: Alcohol.

#6 10-12-2005, 04:26 PM

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getting cockblocked by her fat friend

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Oh, how I hate the fat friend!

man · #7 10-13-2005, 01:12 AM

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This is bullcrap, have youmet most women out there? 90% of the population is undateable!!!

Realistically though there are pros and cons to internet dating. A major pro is that you know that the women there are looking, none of this buying a girl drinks until her boyfriend shows up crap, or getting cockblocked by her fat friend. You also have a larger pool in that you can pay specific attention to anyone of them, and not have to directly compete with music, smoke, noise, work or whatever goes on.

One piece of advice though- when you talk to a girl the first time no matter how well it goes don't let the conversation go over 20 mins- just don't.

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yeah you do have the advantage of knowing that girls are only there for the sausage, but isn't incomplete information part of the element? I mean what fun is it if you know that the girl you're talking to is looking for the same thing you are? OK it makes things less stressful, and for the higher-minded it makes conversation more fluid (I guess), but the chase is part of the game. if you're looking for a straight, paved road, then maybe online dating is for you (if it even provides the perfect matchmaking services it boasts), but most of us like to feel the turns and changes of relationships. It's more stressful, but it gives you a better appreciation for the opposite sex.

I guess that most of my argument is motivated by the fact that I actually enjoy drama, but I swear there's something to it.

Cumulonimbus · #8 10-12-2005, 04:16 PM

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she (a) is weirded out by the concept of calling a guy she met online, and is thusly taking her time, or (b) totally forgot about it. she probably totally forgot. but either way the best thing to do is forget about her and go to happy hour (not necessarily in that order). I would also stop meeting women online, because you're drawing from a much less desirable pool of people, and the chances of her turning out to be who you hope she is are very low.

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This is the thought process of a weak-tightie.

man · #9 10-13-2005, 01:00 AM

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This is the thought process of a weak-tightie.

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haha, better put, it's the thought process of a guy who hates to get rejected. I guess I should've added "if you want to preserve your ego..." to the whole thing. but egotistical guys usually end up with women who will never make them happy, so go figure..

if you really want her, be persistent but respectful of her emotions and her space. that's the best I can do I guess.

LeatherFace · #10 10-12-2005, 03:39 PM

Results: you forgot to turn your cell phone on.