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#1
08-23-2005, 04:09 PM
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Re: what\'s better?
on a funny aside, I printed out the thread where I was asking, "should I make a move?" and gave it to her a few weeks later. The first time I kissed her was the day after I made that post.
I thought she'd think it was cute, but she was actually mad that I'd talk about that with strangers, instead of talking to her. I think she's over it, but you never know. 
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#2
08-25-2005, 10:13 AM
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Re: what\'s better?
Last night I called her.
I said, "I know I've been acting cold toward you lately. I just want you to know it has nothing to do with how much I like you. It has one-hundred percent to do with sponsor direction. Last time I told you we couldn't hang out I was kind of emotional and mean about it, so I just wanted to clear that up. I like you just as much as I ever did, and that's why it's hard for me. I couldn't possibly leave you thinking I'm pissed off or wounded or anything like that." Her response, "Oh okay. I'll give you a call. Maybe we can get together this weekend." [img]/images/graemlins/confused.gif[/img] [img]/images/graemlins/confused.gif[/img] [img]/images/graemlins/confused.gif[/img] So I tell my sponsor this, and he says, "That's it. No more communication." I deleted her number from my cell.
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#4
08-25-2005, 10:21 AM
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Re: what\'s better?
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What's up with your sponsor? Is this typical? (I'm being genuine here, I really didn't realize they have this much control over who you interact with) [/ QUOTE ] Well there's a few different schools of thought on sponsorship. The particular group I'm affiliated with right now has a tradition of very strong sponsorship. They feel that one of the keys to working a program is to take direction without questioning it. My sponsor is probably actually considered the most lax in the group. The other school of thought on sponsorship is that the sponsor tells the sponsee what he did in a similar situation, and how he took the twelve steps, and the sponsee decides for himself.
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#5
08-25-2005, 10:29 AM
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Re: what\'s better?
Is this lady friend from the same school of thought on sponsorship? My first thought was that she just really didn't understand what you were getting at. It sounds like you and your sponsor - well, actually just your sponsor, because you haven't given much detail about your own, independent thinking - think that she's actively or passively trying to subvert you.
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#6
08-25-2005, 10:43 AM
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Re: what\'s better?
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Is this lady friend from the same school of thought on sponsorship? [/ QUOTE ] no
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#7
08-25-2005, 12:01 PM
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Re: what\'s better?
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My first thought was that she just really didn't understand what you were getting at. It sounds like you and your sponsor - well, actually just your sponsor, because you haven't given much detail about your own, independent thinking - think that she's actively or passively trying to subvert you. [/ QUOTE ] I never asked what his rationale is. Best I can figure: I'm obsessing too much. She's either still too loopy from all that crap she's been putting into her system to be in touch with reality, or she's trying to mess with my head.
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#8
08-25-2005, 10:19 AM
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Re: what\'s better?
Are you also a scientologist, by any chance?
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#9
08-25-2005, 10:22 AM
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Re: what\'s better?
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Are you also a scientologist, by any chance? [/ QUOTE ] no.
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#10
08-25-2005, 10:31 AM
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Re: what\'s better?
Should I give the Baja Blast another chance today?
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