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Old 09-24-2005, 12:00 PM
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I am making enough money playing poker that I should not have been depressed over the last few months. Yet I was.

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Maybe your just naturally depressed and need some drugs



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One quick hit and I could start a business, and I'd be happy

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Dude, that ain't ever gonna happen in a casino

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We talked for a while and I began to feel better about myself. I wasn't alone.

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Yeah a conversation on AIM could work magic - go out and get some pussy if you feel so alone.


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I'm also thinking of volunteering at the nursing home my mother works at, just a few hours a week, to have an activity where I interact with others.

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Umm? Yeah, if you wanna wash old people or something... Try enrolling at some bullshit college grad courses - maybe once a week - making the objective not grades - but "interacting w/ others" or better yet? get a job, you loser

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Smile to the grocery store cashier as she rings up your food

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Yeah, and think to yourself - that might be me one day - imagine my depression then.


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I feel that everything else will just fall into place.

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Better get over this crap first - good luck!
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Old 09-24-2005, 03:04 PM
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I am making enough money playing poker that I should not have been depressed over the last few months. Yet I was.

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Maybe your just naturally depressed and need some drugs



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One quick hit and I could start a business, and I'd be happy

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Dude, that ain't ever gonna happen in a casino

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We talked for a while and I began to feel better about myself. I wasn't alone.

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Yeah a conversation on AIM could work magic - go out and get some pussy if you feel so alone.


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I'm also thinking of volunteering at the nursing home my mother works at, just a few hours a week, to have an activity where I interact with others.

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Umm? Yeah, if you wanna wash old people or something... Try enrolling at some bullshit college grad courses - maybe once a week - making the objective not grades - but "interacting w/ others" or better yet? get a job, you loser

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Smile to the grocery store cashier as she rings up your food

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Yeah, and think to yourself - that might be me one day - imagine my depression then.


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I feel that everything else will just fall into place.

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Better get over this crap first - good luck!

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You are an idiot. This has nothing to do with feeling alone, it has to do with figuring out where I want my life to go.

I got into grad school, two in fact, but defferred them for a year because I was unsure if that was the direction I wanted to take. I'm not living in a house by myself feeling like my life is worthless. I have two great roomates, great friends from school, and awesome parents who, when I told them I was going to take time off from school and work to play poker for a few months, said "go for it. you are young, now's the time to do it"

I was simply questioning my feelings now versus what I had expected when I graduated.

If you think that volunteering is worthless you are a selfish prick, no offense. When in high school I was forced to volunteer, a Jesuit school graduation requirement, and the experience was great. I worked at a homeless shelter a few times and a nursing home a few times, not washing old people but talking to them for a few minutes when a lot of their family members won't. Sometimes those people remember a five minute conversation for months.

You should try it sometime.

I think you missed the point of the post. This has nothing to do with having no friends and being alone, it was the feeling of "missing" something. Once I opened up to my friend and she said "yeah, it's normal. I feel that way too. A lot of people do", I realized I wasn't alone.

The PM's and great responses I got to this post only support my feelings.

But on a side note, I never understand why people like writing posts to trash other poeple. Like, does it turn you on? Do you go tell your friends how cool you are? Do you sit at the computer and think, oh my god I got him so good?

Just wondering,
Have a nice day.
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Old 09-24-2005, 03:29 PM
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This isn't going to be too coherent as it is 5:30 AM and the alcohol and ambien are kicking in, but I think you'll get the gist.


Many of the people I know that I consider to be very intelligent seem to struggle greatly with the conflict of what society wants out of them and what they really want. You seem to be aware of this idea, yet you say "I am making enough money playing poker that I should not have been depressed over the last few months." Financial stability is a great thing, but if in acquiring this you realize you are unhappy it's just not worth it. Not just for poker, but for socially accepted and praised jobs as well. Even if you really nail an interview with a very respectable company, get a great job right out of college, and gain the adknowledgement from the community as a succesful and rich person, are you really a success if you're miserable?

Funny how since around junior year in high school I remember feeling the pressure of figuring out what my occupuation would be. Even in college, some people just don't have a solid idea of what they would want to do with their life, and the pressure that has been applied and building for quite some time may lead them to think there is something wrong with them, that their life may end up a directionless failure. The idea of which lives would be considered failures and which would be considered successes are defintions created by society. Having the balls to realize and stand by what is the best thing for yourself, the individual, I think isn't seen nearly enough.

It should go without saying that people who know what they want to do with their life and quickly find a vocation and path are not weak minded or brainwashed by society. I envy those that know what they want and have no exceptional problem finding it, I wish I had that.

I do agree that surrounding yourself with good friends and family is an incredibly important thing, finding people you really connect with is a rare occurence and once you have it you hold on to it. As for your friend who didn't want to hear what you had to say, doesn't sound like much of a friend, but I don't know them of course, so just a thought.

Just find what makes you happy, a comfortable lifestyle that's good for you and that's it. Some people crave stability, some need to have their backs to the wall and their feet dangling off the edge. Some need to be surrounded by people, others reflecting by themselves on a lake somewhere in seclusion. It's cliche as fck, but life's too short to worry about it, but I know some of us just can't help it.

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I think you are dead on with a lot of the things you wrote here. I think there is a ton of pressure on college students to get a solid job and start making money right away. I am finding this is compounded by friends who got high paying jobs and quietly let it slip how much they make. However, very few poeple I know who have recently graduated feel content with their lives, and even those with high paying jobs are constantly trying to improve...constantly trying to reach some invisiable standard set by American society.

Last summer I went with a group of friends to the Greek Islands for a week and a half. I was studying in Italy at the time, and I was already seeing the vast differences in European life vs. American life. So anyways, for a few days we are on the island of Santorini, staying in a hotel right on the beach. The owner of the hotel (which was rather small, fifteen rooms), got up everyday and worked in his garden. Then he ate lunch, went to the ferry to pick up more people, and spent the afternoon back in the garden. He was the happiest man I'd ever seen. All day, worked in his garden and seemed not to have a care in the world. I think it's easy to get caught up on what we should have or what advertisements and commercials tell us we want, opposed to what we need.

Where I said "I was making enough not to be depressed" was a pretty shitty description on my part of what I meant to say. I should have edited this better before I wrote it. What I meant was, I am extremely happy in my choice to take a few months to play poker. It was given me the flexability to relax for a few months without the pressures of school or a stable job. What I am realizing is that while being financially stable is an important stepping stone for any post grad, it should not sole purpose of going through life.

At first I thought "If I can make enough money everything will fall into place." Now I'm thinking, "If I build and maintain my relationships everything will fall into place".

Lastly, I should not of mentioned that side note about the friend who didn't want to hear it. There is tons more to that story that is not related to this post, but she is a great friend and has been for years.

Thanks for your post.

Jon
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Old 09-24-2005, 05:47 PM
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[img]/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img] if ya ant real relationships; i doubt you make many at a poker table..

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tends to be an artificial way for people to get together; but draws people who have trouble with real relationships....; no, not everyone...lol..but a nice %

jmho

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Old 09-24-2005, 08:36 PM
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You are an idiot. This has nothing to do with feeling alone, it has to do with figuring out where I want my life to go.

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I think he was trying to be funny.

Not that he actually was funny, but I think he was trying.
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Old 09-24-2005, 11:20 PM
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I'm kind of in the same situation except I have a stable job but with each day I realize more that its not taking me where I want to go. I graduated college with a few engineering degrees and took the standard route of finding a job. My advice to you would be to take as long as you need to figure out what you really want to do especially if you can support yourself from poker for awhile. Doing something you don't like everyday is definitely not worth it. Hope you figure it out man.
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Old 09-25-2005, 01:18 AM
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You should really check out http://www.quarterlifecrisis.com/

It's a great site and your story is similar to a lot of people's lives on there.

Good luck.

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I'm going to cross-post this in OOT. Sorry.
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Old 09-25-2005, 01:34 AM
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I never understand why people like writing posts to trash other poeple. Like, does it turn you on?

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It's fun.. It's also fun to see how whinos like you take the world too darn seriously.

Go overanalyze the tells on the the bum you feed at the homeless shelter who is now schooling you in 2-4 or the old lady who you spoke to about the nixon presidency who's now kicking your ass with 53... soooted..

wait? she'll remember that nixon coversation for a hot minute now...
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jesuit education? go into the priesthood - maybe that's your calling

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Old 09-25-2005, 11:48 AM
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Last summer I went with a group of friends to the Greek Islands for a week and a half. I was studying in Italy at the time, and I was already seeing the vast differences in European life vs. American life.
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So anyways, for a few days we are on the island of Santorini, staying in a hotel right on the beach. The owner of the hotel (which was rather small, fifteen rooms), got up everyday and worked in his garden. Then he ate lunch, went to the ferry to pick up more people, and spent the afternoon back in the garden. He was the happiest man I'd ever seen. All day, worked in his garden and seemed not to have a care in the world. I think it's easy to get caught up on what we should have or what advertisements and commercials tell us we want, opposed to what we need.

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Not for nothing were the Aegean islands and the Aegean Coast (now West Turkey) the cradles of philosophy.

Took you only ten days.
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Old 09-25-2005, 07:26 PM
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Im kinda feeling the samy way right now in college. Here I am, my junior year, the prime of my college days, and things just arent going as well as they could. Its not even like things are bad, I just get this intagible feeling they are not as good as they could be.

I agree with the original poster. Maintaining and developing relationships is VERY important. I feel like a lot of my despression stems from a lack of a relationship with a girl. I have never been able to seriously connect with a member from the opposite sex, ie emotionally. Im only 20 but I have not yet even had a serious gf. These things bother me. I tell myself that time will take care of everything, but I dont know anymore.

I just dont know where my life is going. When I graduate from college, how will things be different? WHat will change? I am scared of the future and scared of becoming an adult. This process of growing up is the scariest thing that has ever happened to me.


There, I laid it all out there. This post really inspired me.

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Damn dude, same story here almost exactly. I'm depressed about 90% of the time and I'm too fucking shy to approach the women I actually desire. When it comes to the women I don't desire, I can't seem to get them to stop stalking me. I feel like I'm wasting SOOO many opportunities in life and this only makes me feel worse. Then I turn to marijuana which essentially shuts down my entire life. I suck.
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