giving your gf money...

[jaydub]

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$5,200/year. What percent of your income is that?

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That ain't even my starbucks budget [img]/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img]

wtf is the context for this question? $100/week * 52 weeks? [img]/images/graemlins/confused.gif[/img]

[jaydub]

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Why don't you just marry her, if you feel obligated to help her financially?

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Because he made it clear that he didn't want to put her on an allowance and... I better stop there in case wifey is reading...

[MelK]

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Why don't you just marry her, if you feel obligated to help her financially?

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Because he made it clear that he didn't want to put her on an allowance and... I better stop there in case wifey is reading...

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marriage != allowance

marriage = giving away at least 50% of your personal equity

[tolbiny]

Check out some of barron's posts in the Unmentionable forums- i don't think a couple of grand a year is going to break him.

[wildzer0]

Great post. I'll just add my two cents. I had a gf for a few years who ended up depending on my completely for money. We lived together, she wouldn't get/keep a job and I ended up hating her. Adding money to a relationship can definitely break it apart. That said, as long as it's a sporadic thing it's probably not a big deal. Let her know you'd like to help her out because she's having trouble working or whatever. Be up front and tell her it's not a long term thing, but you'd like to help out while she's having some problems.

One other thing. Do not slip the money in her purse when she visits! That'll just make things weird. Talk to her about it.

[Bluffoon]

I would just pay off her hospital bill. That way it is a one shot deal and it is not like you are paying her for her services on a regular basis or something you are just taking care of a problem for her.

[asofel]

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Check out some of barron's posts in the Unmentionable forums- i don't think a couple of grand a year is going to break him.

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its not, but that's not the point. Check out what Blarg said. If you've read any of his posts you'll see he's practically the ken jennings of OOT. Mslif said something similar.

Bottom line is this: you have to be careful about precedent; you have to choose your actions based on what kind of person she is; if she's the kind of girl to offer to pickup dinner or things here and there, even if you end up paying most of the time, then a little help temporarily or even now and then won't be bad in my opinion. But watch yourself...you sound like a thoughtful guy with some available cash. As someone who's been there before, just be careful and realize that sometimes having to go without is better than going with.....

[Bluffoon]

Whoaaa.... You should not have to "make" her happy. It's not your job. Happiness comes from inside. People who look externally for happiness may be codependent.

[Paluka]

Am I the only one trying to figure out how the size of her gas tank matters?

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so do i just put $100 or $120 in her purse before she leaves assuming she visits on saturday???

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Dude that's not even one BB in your game right? Just tell her, "I was going to light this hundy on fire b/c it doesn't mean anything to me. Do you want it instead?"