have freind with drug problem... it's really scaring me. help? info?

[Maulik]

Simply put she needs a drug counselor someone who understands addiction and such. Help your friend find a good one and hope time helps.

[sam h]

Your friend sounds like she's in bad, bad shape. I don't think that kind of person just wakes up one day and decides to stop, or generally has the willpower to go cold turkey after an intervention. When getting clean means staying sober for two or three days, and the way she celebrates is to go off on another bender, then the only way you can even hope to turn it around is to be forced sober for an extended period. It sounds to me like you need to convince her to go into rehab and dry out for a couple weeks (at least) somewhere. I know that costs money, but I don't see another solution.

[Jeebus]

As someone who just realized they were on the bottom with alcohol, I can say you really can't do much. I kinda think some people could have told me I was [censored] up but I still probably wouldn't have listened. Once I realized how bad I was though, I needed someone to talk to about it and agree to do things with me every now and then when everyone else was drinking. With that support I can again have a beer or two during the game or whatever and drop it.

You can only watch that she doesn't kill herself and then be the person there for her. If you see her sober, drop hints about someone else that does too many drugs.

[Cancuk]

A a close family member of mine went through some pretty rough [censored]. He was put in Rehab for a long time...a couple months I think. He came out, clean. He had one relapse, but thats been it.

Find a good Rehab clinic, and get her in

[chesspain]

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FYP

[OtisTheMarsupial]

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even went to some AA meetings...

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Find out who her sponsor is and let them know she needs help. If it's a good AA or NA group, they'll gang up to help her.

Also, even if you don't get totally clean yourself, pretend you are. Tell your friend you're quitting drug use and she should too. Stop usinig any drugs around her.

Then, be her friend. Let her know you care about her and don't want her to hurt herself. Let her know you will help her if she needs it.

[bwana devil]

see if you can spot the two horrible pieces of advice.

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Also, even if you don't get totally clean yourself, pretend you are.

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[send_the_msg]

TOSS HER IN THE SLAMMER!!!!

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[craig r]

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see if you can spot the two horrible pieces of advice.

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If it's a good AA or NA group, they'll gang up to help her.


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Also, even if you don't get totally clean yourself, pretend you are.

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This might be the best post in this thread. I really wonder if people are still stuck in the 19th century when it comes to addictions.

craig

p.s. Excorcisms must be performed by Priests, Rabbis fck the whole thing up. I mean, I wasn't even Jewish before.

[OtisTheMarsupial]

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see if you can spot the two horrible pieces of advice.

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If it's a good AA or NA group, they'll gang up to help her.


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Also, even if you don't get totally clean yourself, pretend you are.

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I don't agree personally with AA, but it works for some people. Just like religion keeps some people from killing or stealing or whatever. Some people need it. And drug abusers are the type that can often benefit from the AA/NA religion.

And yeah, if you're a user, not an abuser, you shouldn't use around your abuser friends. You might want to consider just plain quitting, but if you're not ready for that, then for your friend's sake, don't use around her.

Whatever. My advice is good. I don't see anyone else offering useful firsthand advice for how to help drug addict friends.