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#11
08-03-2005, 01:02 PM
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Re: How do I tell my son about the birds and the bees?
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[ QUOTE ] Seriously, never had the talk. My Dad knew that I knew enough, and he gave me a Playboy when I was 13. [/ QUOTE ] Did he give you a pack of cigarettes when you turned 14? [/ QUOTE ] FYI, there is a difference between jerking off and smoking that renders your post stupid. 
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#12
08-03-2005, 01:03 PM
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Re: How do I tell my son about the birds and the bees?
honestly, if your kid has his head screwed on the right way, this talk doesnt need to happen. if you parent him well and hes responsible and realizes the rules of life he'll be fine.
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08-03-2005, 01:04 PM
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Re: How do I tell my son about the birds and the bees?
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my parents never had the talk with me, my dad threw in "dont have sex without a condom" really randomly once or twice but other than that nothing. [/ QUOTE ] Same here. Just let you son learn about everything through internet pornography.
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#14
08-03-2005, 01:06 PM
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Re: How do I tell my son about the birds and the bees?
Aaaah, yes. "The Talk."
Me: Dad, can I borrow $200. Dad: What for? Me: An abortion. Dad: Son, I think it's time we had a talk about the birds and the bees....
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08-03-2005, 01:06 PM
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Re: How do I tell my son about the birds and the bees?
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[ QUOTE ] Seriously, never had the talk. My Dad knew that I knew enough, and he gave me a Playboy when I was 13. [/ QUOTE ] Did he give you a pack of cigarettes when you turned 14? [/ QUOTE ] No, he gave me a joint [img]/images/graemlins/cool.gif[/img]
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#16
08-03-2005, 01:07 PM
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Re: How do I tell my son about the birds and the bees?
The closest I came to getting "the talk" was when I was 16 or 17 (still a virgin) and going out to dinner with a girlfriend and said, "If you go out in the rain, wear a raincoat, ok?"
I didn't know what he was talking about for a good 5 seconds, and no further explanation seemed forthcoming, so I left.
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#18
08-03-2005, 01:09 PM
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Re: How do I tell my son about the birds and the bees?
I never really had the talk and didn't grow up with my dad.
My mother just said... "do you know about sex?" I think I was 13 or 14 so I said yeah and she's like just use condoms if you can't afford them i'll buy them for you. That was about the extent of it.
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#19
08-03-2005, 01:53 PM
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Re: How do I tell my son about the birds and the bees?
My mom was chicken too, bought us a set of (thin, age appropriate) books on the subject of reproduction & "the change" when we were ... 10-12? Never spoke of sex again til she saw me watching Jenny Jones (i know, i know but it sticks in my memory) -- topic, kids who have sex in their parents house...
"You wouldnt have sex in the house would you?" "Not in the house.." "What??!" etcetc. She flipped when she found I was sexually active at 16, and had me convinced I was pregnant from my recent, first encounter (though, no I couldn't have been and it defied the logic of the books she gave me.) Her flipping did nothing but cause a rift between us-- as she'd always said I "could tell her anything" and it was then i realized that I really couldn't. Naive, but i've kept her even more than arms' length about my sexuality since then. my advice-- do start with some book or something appropriate to review with your kid. dont say cock or pussy but use vulva (the in word for vagina, dontcha know), penis, breasts etc. and focus more on the change and what it entails-- sexual interest, etc. Talking about the physical change will lead to discussion about sexual feelings/desires etc. and from there its the tough part [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img] imo i wouldn't talk about anal with my parents (!!) but depending on your position on sex and sexuality-- you may want to approach the fact that sex = pregnancy but not all sex means penis --> vulva (oral, heavy petting, etc.) and that there are safer ways to express and enjoy sexuality than vaginal sex. (my fear would be mor of pregnancy than anything.) I'd also be open and discuss the ramifications of early teen pregnancy, meaning he'd have too many responsibilities to truly enjoy his teen years (discuss what they are: getting a job, supporting a kid, how tough it is to raise an infant/child, etc-- all sorts of things teenagers arent wont to do)... and let him know that sex is a choice but there is no absolutely safe sex as far as not getting preggo/an STD goes. I'd also mention masturbation, if only in passing as something not to be ashamed of but something that is normal (in boundaries!) -- shame attached to masturbation was a big hurdle for me and friends, and I almost wish someone would have told me it was okay and that I didn't have to listen to my (lying im sure) friends who said they'd never do something so "gross." [thanks but i dont need a masturbation talk now jake] [img]/images/graemlins/wink.gif[/img] Don't worry about him telling the little ones, I dunno but I guess I've always felt you should be open with this sort of stuff no matter what the age, unless the kids are too young to get it or be interested by it. But I wouldn't say "dont tell anyone/your brothers-sisters about this talk," because that also can foster shame about it and make him think you two were discussing something bad or wrong when you weren't. You can broach it by saying "your siblings are too young to understand this now, but I think you're ready..." etc, which will make him feel like an older kid ready for something the others arent, and prolly will make him keep it close to the vest, if thats what you want. good luck, go look on amazon for a book or something to start with. (or maybe a book that gives advice on this sort of stuff!) [img]/images/graemlins/wink.gif[/img] seriously, good luck. i know its weird, but really this is a crucial time that can shape your future relationship with your kid-- you dont want to approach it afraid or freaked out like theres something wrong. it'll help you when he later approaches you (if it happens) with questions/problems about sex & sexuality. glgl.
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08-03-2005, 02:08 PM
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Re: How do I tell my son about the birds and the bees?
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use vulva (the in word for vagina, dontcha know), [/ QUOTE ] Are you sure?
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