Serious issue: Ex Girlfriend...Thanksgiving....Feeling Bad

[JonPKibble]

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Oh come on, what do you want me to say? Fine take her in, but before you do, ask yourself what most women would do if the tables were turned.

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Who cares what 'most women' would do. What ever happened to being a bigger man, just because it's the right thing to do? 'Tis the season.

[Vavavoom]

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Oh come on, what do you want me to say? Fine take her in, but before you do, ask yourself what most women would do if the tables were turned.

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I'm not sure how "Get over it, go out with somebody else." applies to this situation. This has nothing to do with our relationship. We've both moved on, this is an issue of feeling compassion for other people as human beings

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If that is the case then Yasher has hit the money with this one...

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Its not worth the guilt of feeling horrible because she's alone. Take her in for Thanksgiving and Christmas this year, and then be done with it. If, by this time next year, she hasn't figured out how to fend for herself, heh, [censored] happens.

Having her over for 2 days is better than beating yourself up over it for 2 weeks. Even if she is an annoying broad.

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[TheMainEvent]

I agree with letting her in but I'm guessing Tony will have to give out some tough love in the future because this reeks of her wanting to get back together and using his guilt to get closer to him.

[MelK]

You need to hook her up with someone who would appreciate her. She needs herself a man and she will never get one if you let her cling to you.

[tonypaladino]

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But this is really a 'you need to decide' thing.

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Eh, I think the tone of Tony's post is, "I've decided, now berate me for being a pansy." But I'm not sure exactly how much beration will be forthcoming, since any decent person would take the poor thing in.

Shrug. Even the hardasses who don't know what a 4 year relationship is like would probably cave, when faced with the situation. Except maybe Dominic.

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I really haven't decided. The issue is way too [censored] complex and giving me a headache.

1. I don't love her anymore, I don't like being in her company, She's a bitch.

2. No one should be alone on a Holiday, she's a bitch but inside a nice person, she's had a rough life and doesn't cope with it well

Anothe factor is my Grandmother loves her to death and would love to have her here for the holidays. she is 82 now and I think is a little upset with the realization that she likely won't get to see either me or my sister get married (god forbid, of course)*. My grandmother cried when we broke up.

*Italian tradition, I had to put it in.

[captZEEbo1]

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1. I don't love her anymore, I don't like being in her company, She's a bitch.

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No one should be alone for the holiday. Thats fine, but it doesnt make it your responsibiliy to ensure that she is with someone.

If she's a bitch and you dont like her, let her fend for herself right now.

[rusellmj]

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1. I don't love her anymore, I don't like being in her company, She's a bitch.


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Isn't this all the information we really need to make the right decision?

YOU'RE FAT

[Brain]

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1. I don't love her anymore, I don't like being in her company, She's a bitch.

[/ QUOTE ]I think you need to stop talking to her altogether if this is actually the case.

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Yes, it may suck for her to be alone for the holidays, but if it means making yourself miserable, I wouldn't do it.