How to answer this common female question?

[asofel]

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"Quit asking stupid questions"

The bottom line is you never EVER answer this question. Avoid it at all costs. There is no good that can come from it.

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you can't avoid it if someone puts you to it directly. And if they do that, then your answer should be "i don't know, but there's probably a much better chance of me breaking up with you if you ask questions like that".

If its an honest non-trapping question then give an honest answer. Ask her as well.

"If you gained 10 pounds? No, of course not. If you gained 400? Well, if I weighed 450 would you be as attracted to me?

[Cancer Merchant]

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It's a loose/loose situation.

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If the question comes up, the clothes aren't loose.

[Shajen]

this isn't even the root question though.

This question is designed to make her feel that you love her unconditionally, so even if she got fat, or got burned horribly, or whatever highschool [censored] she comes up with to ask you, you'll still love her.

That's what she's looking for, emotional investment.

[jaydub]

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"Would you break up with me if I got fat?"


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"No but I'd stop cheating on you if you got skinny."

[Bluffoon]

My answer woud be that I would break up with her if she keeps asking me questions like this.

[Blarg]

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I'll save the story as to how this came up and just ask how you answer this question from a girl:

"Would you break up with me if I got fat?"

I think the problem arises for me from the fact that my honest answer is yes, for various reasons (and no I do not think this is shallow, my reasons are valid). So when I'm asked this question, I tend to not want to lie and give the girl the wrong idea. Have you guys ever had this problem?

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"Don't be silly, honey. You're already fat."

[imported_The Vibesman]

Good. She understands you or she doesn't.

It's not uncommon for people to get irrational when they are discussing things like this. If this is the case, try to calmly and clearly point out where she is being irrational. If she continues, tell her you're not going to discuss it unless she's willing to look at all sides of the argument. If that doesn't work, tell her you don't like games and to f**k off until she wants to be an adult.

[asofel]

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this isn't even the root question though.

This question is designed to make her feel that you love her unconditionally, so even if she got fat, or got burned horribly, or whatever highschool [censored] she comes up with to ask you, you'll still love her.

That's what she's looking for, emotional investment.

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exactly, and hence the first part of my response. There's fishing and there's fishing. Asking for a cute compliment or some emotional security is fine, but putting someone in an awkward situation and trying to see if you can get them to say what you want is not, and no guy OR girl should stand for it.

[imported_The Vibesman]

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"Quit asking stupid questions"

The bottom line is you never EVER answer this question. Avoid it at all costs. There is no good that can come from it.

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you can't avoid it if someone puts you to it directly. And if they do that, then your answer should be "i don't know, but there's probably a much better chance of me breaking up with you if you ask questions like that".

If its an honest non-trapping question then give an honest answer. Ask her as well.

"If you gained 10 pounds? No, of course not. If you gained 400? Well, if I weighed 450 would you be as attracted to me?

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Much better post than mine.

[jakethebake]

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your answer should be "i don't know, but there's probably a much better chance of me breaking up with you if you ask questions like that".

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I think this is correct. I really couldn't ever see my self with anyone that asked things like this to begin with.