Tipping etiqutte, should I feel bad/cheap?

[Evan]

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i'll hijack this for a second and recommend no one ever date a waitress. i've tipped 40%+ on almost every meal so far.

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I have gone out w/ bartenders and waitresses. The fact that you tip outrageously should be compensated for by getting free drinks/meals at a bunch of bars/restaurants you go to.

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A bunch? Wouldn't you only get free stuff if you went to the place she worked?

[edfurlong]

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i'll hijack this for a second and recommend no one ever date a waitress. i've tipped 40%+ on almost every meal so far.

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I have gone out w/ bartenders and waitresses. The fact that you tip outrageously should be compensated for by getting free drinks/meals at a bunch of bars/restaurants you go to.

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A bunch? Wouldn't you only get free stuff if you went to the place she worked?

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People that work in restaurants tend to know people that work in restaurants. Its actualy a much smaller clique than one would think.

[DasLeben]

Seriously (and I have a tipped server job), I'd tip her like crap too. You're tipping her to do her job, which she obviously isn't doing very well.

What really irritates me is when I'm doing my job, but some other factor is keeping someone's food from coming out quickly. This weekend at the restaurant, we had the worst kitchen crew ever. We have a policy of getting food out within 16 minutes from the time it went into the computer. It wasn't uncommon this weekend for food to take 20-25+ minutes.

Of course, that's not my fault. But, people don't really understand that. I'm still making my rounds, refilling drinks, explaining a little bit of the situation, etc. Basically giving everyone attention the best I can.

But, at the end of dinner, I often found 10-15% tips sitting there. $6 on a $60 tab, $10 on a $75 tab, $2 on a $23 tab (ugh), etc. Again, I'm doing my job, but some people can't understand that. I guess it's possible that they think they're protesting against the restaurant if they don't tip very well, but really, they're just protesting against my bank account. Bastards. </rant>

[Ulysses]

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i'll hijack this for a second and recommend no one ever date a waitress. i've tipped 40%+ on almost every meal so far.

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I have gone out w/ bartenders and waitresses. The fact that you tip outrageously should be compensated for by getting free drinks/meals at a bunch of bars/restaurants you go to.

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A bunch? Wouldn't you only get free stuff if you went to the place she worked?

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Pretty much all the bartenders/waitstaff/cooks/nightclub doormen/bouncers/managers/hostesses/etc. in a city all know each other and give each other free stuff.

[hyde]

I spent a little too long in the service business....I always overtip, especially for personality, sincerity and cleavage.

I will ask a waitron who is slow to keep an eye on our cocktails, there are pleasant ways to do this.

If they are jerks, I will ask if we did something to offend them. which we hardly ever do anymore. We have aged gracefully....for some reason this question usually gets their attention.

Lastly, I will always tell the management, I always appreciated knowing about problems when I was managing.

I don’t tip because society says I gotta. I tip when somebody deserves a tip. When somebody really puts forth an effort, they deserve a little something extra. But this tipping automatically, that [censored]’s for the birds. As far as I’m concerned, they’re just doing their job.

[MINETZ]

I hate situations like this, im a generous tipper when service is good and they keep the refils coming. I think you stil need to tip 10 percent, this is based on the fact that these people have lower wages because they are expected to be tipped, the food being slow is not her fault.

[Los Feliz Slim]

I waited tables for a long time, which makes me tip well but also makes me hyper-critical of service. If she wasn't busy and was blowing you off, you absolutely have to complain to HER. This gives her the opportunity to fix things, and you the opportunity to get free stuff. If you complain to her and she does nothing, F her. If she gets you some stuff for free (a meal, drinks, etc), you can justify leaving a tip. In my years of being a food server, I had maybe two or three tables that didn't enjoy my service. I talked to the manager, got them free stuff, and probably got a better tip than I would've in the first place.

[B Dids]

I won't tip here. If I'm feeling extra upset I might even flag down a manager and explain why.

[RunDownHouse]

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this is based on the fact that these people have lower wages because they are expected to be tipped, the food being slow is not her fault.

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I don't feel the need to pay her a living wage. That's between her and management, and she's clearly consented to the wage offered by management. If she can't make enough to live on (constantly getting short tips because she sucks) then she needs to - and will - find another line of work. You know, as long as you don't subsidize her shittiness.