My girlfriend is a losing gambler

wildzer0 · #1 11-13-2005, 05:02 PM

My girlfriend and I both enjoy gambling. But, we've taken two different paths. While I have worked hard on my game and become a winning player, she has no interest in doing so. People play for different reasons and all so if she doesn't mind losing that's cool. the problem is, she does mind losing. Since she enjoys the gamble more than the strategy, I taught her about casino whoring figuring she could have some fun gambling and make some easy money to boot. The problem is she plays well after the wagering requirement is met (gambling when she has the worst of it) and either loses her money or barely breaks even. She has the money to lose, and in a couple of years of gambling, she hasn't lost more than $1,000 (probably more like $500) but after one of these sessions she becomes despondant and upset. And also, still basically believing that all of this is luck, becoming jealous that I make good money casino whoring and playing poker. It's a situation I'm not sure how to deal with. I've explained to her that it's not luck that I win money and it's not some innate instinct she's lacking either. I'm sure someone here must have been in a similar situation at some point, how did you deal with it?

#2 11-13-2005, 05:57 PM

Probably not more than 1000 or 500? Are you sure? Losing players consistently underestimate their losses.

She sounds like more of a "play for the thrill" sort of player.

You might also want to remind her that in the long run, everyone gets dealt about the same frequency of each hand.

#3 11-13-2005, 06:13 PM

Try to explain luck in terms of it's mathematical nature, in a way that is pretty easy to understand. It sounds like she may "believe in luck" in an irrational way that lots of people do...like some mystical or intangible he's-got-it-and-I-don't and vice versa way.

That might help a little bit. Also, try to remember that the way she plays is supposed to be fun. Getting upset is not.

Big Bend · #4 11-14-2005, 01:34 AM

Here is one I posted about my wife awhile back. Main thing is confrontations cannot win, just try to minimize the damage and offer gentle support when things go bad.

L8r... BB

scrapperdog · #5 11-14-2005, 07:54 AM

Keep girlfriends/wives away from poker and gambling would be my response. Dont tell them that you actually make money doing this, and if they really want to play show them the way to the play money tables. Maybe invest 10 bucks and get 1 million pokerstars play money chips for her to donk off. Sorry this advice is too late for you.

#6 11-14-2005, 08:30 AM

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Keep girlfriends/wives away from poker and gambling would be my response.

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Unless ur a celebrity that is! =)

Seriously though -- good advice guys.

mittman84 · #7 11-14-2005, 01:17 PM

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I've explained to her that it's not luck that I win money and it's not some innate instinct she's lacking either. I'm sure someone here must have been in a similar situation at some point, how did you deal with it?

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splashpot · #8 11-14-2005, 01:26 PM

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I've explained to her that it's not luck that I win money and it's not some innate instinct she's lacking either.

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I'm not sure if that is entirely true. Seriously. I have a theory that most people who win money at poker are naturals. Not in that they naturally know what to do without studying poker, but that the concepts behind winning poker come naturally to them through study. I think most winning players find these concepts easy to understand, more so than other people.

I've always thought it strange when math professors, compsci geeks, and other very intelligent people misunderstand funtamental gambling concepts time and time again.

#9 11-14-2005, 01:56 PM

There are plenty of people out there who gamble for fun. Your girlfriend is one of them.

There's no need to convince her to play winning poker; however, if you suspect she has a serious gambling problem (I'm in no place to judge if this is true, but it doesn't sound that serious), then you should have her contact a hotline or get her some help.

chesspain · #10 11-14-2005, 02:59 PM

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My girlfriend and I both enjoy gambling. But, we've taken two different paths. While I have worked hard on my game and become a winning player, she has no interest in doing so. People play for different reasons and all so if she doesn't mind losing that's cool. the problem is, she does mind losing. Since she enjoys the gamble more than the strategy, I taught her about casino whoring figuring she could have some fun gambling and make some easy money to boot. The problem is she plays well after the wagering requirement is met (gambling when she has the worst of it) and either loses her money or barely breaks even. She has the money to lose, and in a couple of years of gambling, she hasn't lost more than $1,000 (probably more like $500) but after one of these sessions she becomes despondant and upset. And also, still basically believing that all of this is luck, becoming jealous that I make good money casino whoring and playing poker. It's a situation I'm not sure how to deal with. I've explained to her that it's not luck that I win money and it's not some innate instinct she's lacking either. I'm sure someone here must have been in a similar situation at some point, how did you deal with it?

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I've always tried to avoid having sex with people who were mentally retarded.