Leaving for school...slight dilemma

[drexah]

Goin to prep. school to do a PG year and am leaving tomorrow...started a relationship at the beginning of the summer (around 5 mo.) and really like this girl.

Although its not like im going to college, and will be back on a lot on weekends , it will be by far the longest time spent apart so far in our relationship (we hung out basically every day this summer.) So, she is still in school (younger than me), and has class until 2.

This is where it gets complicated...I was planning on taking her out to Boston as a surprise, although I had told her i really wanted to hang out with her the night before i left. She works, and was scheduled to work tommorrow night 6-9, so she took it off a couple days ago, and then tells me today her friend asked her to fill in for her and "forgot" it was my last night and said sure. I am like WTF you 'forgot' and she just says yes like it is absolutely nothing. So...she said she would come over after school.

what is my move...Just bang her and send her home for 'forgetting' it was my last night, or be forgiving and go see her at work/say bye to her when she gets off of work?


better kipin?

[kipin]

Return.. button.. broken?

[smokingrobot]

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what is my move...Just bang her and send her home for 'forgetting' it was my last night

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i thought you said you really liked her?

so do you?

[drexah]

i threw that in there to satisfy the stereotypical OOT'er, otherwise i thought i'd probably just get flamed. I would never do that, and yes i do really like her.

[smokingrobot]

long distance sucks.

my first gf went to ohio for college and i was stuck back home in hs, we ended up breaking up not too long after.

2nd gf, i went to college, she was in hs, although a year later she went to college 30 minutes from mine.

3rd gf moved to dc, now shes back in philly.

so i have tons of long distance experience and believe me, it sucks.

you're going to spend a [censored] load of time on the phone im sure.

tell you wanna stick it out if you like her. you will need time to yourself though to make friends, adjust to new surroundings etc. you may even find yourself wishing you didnt.

its a tough decision, and i dont know if the answer will be made clear in this discussion.

im a big proponent of making my own mistakes to learn from, but you really should do some soul searching.

but long distance can work out too, you said you'd see her on the weekends.

have you asked her how she felt about it? maybe she's wondering the same thing you are.

[drexah]

one of the main reasons i want to stay with her, not just because i like her a lot and feel like just ending things would be a complete waste of the past 5 months, but my school is only an hour away, i have class mon-sat, sat. being a 'half day' so it is my impression (it is very strict there, no parties, etc.) i will be coming home almost every weekend. Also, i get a shitload of breaks, and the major ones (thanksgiving, xmas, march) are like 3-4 weeks, and i also have a ridiculous amount of 'long weekends' where i'll be home...so i will be home alot and just want to chill with her.

[smokingrobot]

you seem like you're trying to convince yourself.

if you want to, do it.

or let me say this another way, you seem like you really want to stick it out, then do it. whats the worst that could happen?

[drexah]

heh, is it just me or can i use this as a perfect way to make her feel bad and SIIHP? comes to mind because today when hanging out with her i was talking about doin her from behind but it came out more along the lines of 'i want to siiyp' and she didnt really say anything for a few seconds before i was like 'oh i didnt mean that' and she she was just like 'oh ok.'

[jokerthief]

Prep School? How old are you?

[drexah]

turned 18 in June. I did [censored] in high school...barely graduated...probably should of been on adderall i would of got straight A's. Anyway, it's better than going to community college, i have the money, and i am playing soccer and lacrosse, and might play in college.