Do you rat out your 16 year old nephew if you think he's toking?

Here's the deal. I found out that my 16 yr old cousins had smoked pot. I made a deal with them: As long as they never EVER EVER did it on school days, or more than 4 times a month, I wouldn't tell their dad. I also gave them the advice to never smoke with anyone they don't know and trust extremely well.

I have actually smoked with them once. However, they do well in school, and I believe are mature enough not to get obsessed with it (and two years later that has proven true). Just telling mommy, or taking it away from them doesnt solve [censored], it only makes them want to do it more.

Weed is not nearly as harmful as alcohol, IMO, course Im in NORML.

Bottom line, you need to feel this one out for yourself, if they would respect you laying down the law on them, do it, they'll be grateful they didnt get caught by mommy, and pay more attention to you.

However, if you feel that this will get out of control, by all means, do what is necessary to fix the problem.

EDIT: Im only 21, so it wasnt like I was a 30 yr old smoking out 16 yr olds, I just came at them with the attitude of an older brother, and they respected me for it.

good luck.

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for the record, my own nephew's life(17 now) is an absolute wreck because of it.

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I'd be willing to bet he's a wreck for other reasons and the pot is just incidental.

you are a [censored] moron, moran.

[IndieMatty]

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it is exteremely risky and could very well end up being deadly. i don't know how old you are, but mary jane is a LOT different than it was when i was 16 (17 years ago).

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Are you serious? The ignorance in this post is astounding.

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Yeah, like wow. My god. Deadly?

To the OP; probably let her know. Kid's dumb enough to have it up on the internet for everyone to see, he needs some guidance (maybe just you?). And this is coming from someone who is just like fluxrad. [img]/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img]

[craig r]

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it is exteremely risky and could very well end up being deadly. i don't know how old you are, but mary jane is a LOT different than it was when i was 16 (17 years ago).

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Are you serious? The ignorance in this post is astounding.

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Well, it can only lead to this

[lapoker17]

Your loyalty is to your sister - at least mine would be to my sister - not my fing nephew. Do what you think she would want you to do.

[KDawgCometh]

no. He will be found out on his own in his own time. Its not your place to rat him out

[billyjex]

smoking pot at 16 years old is much more common than you realize.

and why are you browsing your nephew's myspace pages? that's a little creepy, buddy.

Um, not to jump on my NORML pulpit, but weed never killed anyone, and its not a gateway drug. The same morons spout that that claim violent videogames make kids violent, and that marilyn manson is to blame for columbine.

Grow the [censored] up and raise your kids.

[ripdog]

Does your sister really not know? In this day and age? Man, maybe ratting her out for being so dense would be the way to go here. Seriously though, I think your move depends on your relationship with the kid. I think that ratting him out is a gigantic pussy move. If you have any credibility on the subject, talk to him yourself. By credibility I mean that you've smoked a fair amount yourself and have seen the error of your ways. If you were a straight-laced valedictorian type at his age--forget it. Find someone that can relate to the kid and have them approach him. Maybe that's your sister or his dad, maybe not. I would never have forgiven one of my uncle's for tattling on me and I think you'll destroy any shot at a relationship with him if you go the tattle-tail route.