My girlfriend is a losing gambler

[wdeadwyler]

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My girlfriend and I both enjoy gambling. But, we've taken two different paths. While I have worked hard on my game and become a winning player, she has no interest in doing so. People play for different reasons and all so if she doesn't mind losing that's cool. the problem is, she does mind losing. Since she enjoys the gamble more than the strategy, I taught her about casino whoring figuring she could have some fun gambling and make some easy money to boot. The problem is she plays well after the wagering requirement is met (gambling when she has the worst of it) and either loses her money or barely breaks even. She has the money to lose, and in a couple of years of gambling, she hasn't lost more than $1,000 (probably more like $500) but after one of these sessions she becomes despondant and upset. And also, still basically believing that all of this is luck, becoming jealous that I make good money casino whoring and playing poker. It's a situation I'm not sure how to deal with. I've explained to her that it's not luck that I win money and it's not some innate instinct she's lacking either. I'm sure someone here must have been in a similar situation at some point, how did you deal with it?

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I've always tried to avoid having sex with people who were mentally retarded.

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Is this guy really a psycologist? It seems hard to believe someone so immature and insensitive has been trained to deal with other people's problems...

[vexvelour]

Most people don't approach poker the way the people on this forum do. We treat it as a science, dissecting each and every aspect of the game and posting hands and always working to get better and be winning players.

Since she obviously has no interest in being a winning player, let her do her own thing. It doesn't sound like she's going broke with her gambling, so let her have fun. Maybe after a while losing will start to stink and she'll pick up a poker book.

[scrapperdog]

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A) Casinos
B) Poker

Two completely different issues.


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I dont think you are understanding what this guy is saying... these are not seperate issues. Him trying to "make her" realize anything is probably going to make the situation worse.

Have you told her how you feel when she gets despondent and upset? Tell her gambling is for fun, and ask her if she is not having fun win or lose then why is she playing? Tell her you dont care if she loses money, just dont be miserable about it if she does lose. Then add on at the end that if she ever wants to become a little more serious at some point in the future you can show her how to be a winning player. Then never bring it up again. If she wants to get serious she will come to you. If she says something like "I want to learn right now" tell her no. Tell her to take her time and think about it, in the meantime play for fun.

[SA125]

I saw a somewhat (20's-30's) young couple playing $20-40. She had a big rock on her finger, was cute, nothing gorgeous, but definitely cute. She was said to have dropped 5k in that game. The list was long.

I played 15-30 with her the next morning. She dropped $300 in 15 min, went to the ATM for another $500, lost that in 20 min and was gone. She was one of the worst players I've seen at those levels. Totally clueless.

I couldn't help but think she's cute, but not that cute. I'd have to be rich and she'd have to look a lot like Eva Mendes to lose my money like that and stay around.