Having kids when you aren't wealthy....

KaneKungFu123 · #1 08-19-2005, 12:36 AM

i have alot of respect for my parent and other people who raised kids on meager salaries.

but i also think its insane.

if you are rich, then you can have kids and still have freedom. you dont have to be a slave. your wife can pile a bunch of [censored] in a shopping cart and you dont have to think much about it. hell, i dont even know how anyone can have a wife without being rich when you consider how apt they are at burning money, and how many added expenses come along with a girl.

casinogosain · #2 08-19-2005, 12:59 AM

I keep telling my wife that there is no f***ing way that our parents bought all this crap for us. I agree KKF.

-Ash

roxtar · #3 08-19-2005, 01:00 AM

You don't have to be wealthy to have kids as long as you're willing to shift your priorities around in the best interest of the kids. That's called sacrifice, and if you really love your kids you do it regardless of how wealthy you are. It's inevitable. As far as grocery shopping goes, you're right... If you can't afford to buy groceries then you definately don't need to be having kids.

BTW..... The mother of your children should be a woman, not a girl. And if you really love her you won't mind the expense.

touchfaith · #4 08-19-2005, 01:00 AM

If you are not willing to be a slave to your children, at any income level...Don't have kids.

SammyKid11 · #5 08-19-2005, 01:12 AM

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If you are not willing to be a slave to your children, at any income level...Don't have kids.

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See, I disagree with this wholeheartedly, and it's why I find a lot of merit in what OP said. I don't think it's GOOD to be a slave to your children -- kids have SO many liberties, SO much "concern" constantly thrust on them from all angles...they end up being treated like they're some sort of deity...and that's why so many of them are brats that I'd just as soon kick in the junk as pass by them in the grocery store.

At the same time, if you don't have money -- you're gonna be a slave to your kids whether you lavish them with everything or not. You're gonna be a slave just to pay all the bills and keep them clothed, fed, in school, teach them some things, spend time with them...

Whereas...if you DO have money, you can afford to get your kids whatever they need, you have time to spend with your kids without it being your ONLY free time, AND you can afford babysitters for time just with your spouse. I maintain the happiest kids are ones who have parents that are happy with one another. Having money affords you the opportunity to take one night a week on your own, and maybe one week a year for an adults-only vacation...and STILL have the time and money you need to provide good things for your kids, as well.

Good post, OP.

#6 08-19-2005, 01:12 AM

I agree with you you KKF. I've basically come to the conclusion that most of the adults who were around in the 60's to the late 70's were idiots. My parents had me and my father made about 20,000 / year and he basically bitched about money all the time. I'd like to clock the F' out of him if I ever see him again.

STLantny · #7 08-19-2005, 01:16 AM

Whoever said earlier that if you love a women enough you wont mind the extra expenses. Bullshit.

touchfaith · #8 08-19-2005, 01:18 AM

I'll say it again...

If you are not willing to be a slave to your children...Do not have any.

Being a slave to your children isn't about money.

I'm too pissed and tired to explain life to you right now.

ChipWrecked · #9 08-19-2005, 01:18 AM

If you DO have money, yes, you can afford the time kids need to have spent on them.

If you are currently trying to make a lot of money, you are working long hours and are neglecting your kids emotional needs in my opinion. I think this is why there are so many upper-middle class school shooters.

My wife stays at home with our two-year old; we get by on what I make which keeps us alive and not much more.

For now, I wouldn't have it any other way. When all kids are in school, I will be perfectly fine to let her go earn the cash for some goodies [img]/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img]

I am willing to sacrifice so my very young children can have their mommy around all day.

newfant · #10 08-19-2005, 01:20 AM

Attitudes they are a changin'. It used to be people were expected to get married at an early age and start popping out babies. I think my parents got married under those expectations (dad was 21 and mom was 18).

Today I think married people still are pressured by society to have kids, but at least people are waiting longer to get married and are waiting longer to have kids. Having a sufficient amount of money and maturity makes everything easier (relationships, kids, life, etc).