How to approach someone about their drinking problem (a bit long)

[KyleC]

no joke try watch a movie like leaving las vegas or some alcoholic movie or some [censored] and im sure that'll help yall to get into the ok he needs to change really [censored] quick

[InchoateHand]

When I watch Leaving Las Vegas I turn and think, "See, I'm not that bad" and go fix myself a drink.

[Brainwalter]

Send him a link to this thread.

[surfinillini]

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Time for a wake up call. Call social services.

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put this under the all-time dick move post

If he's an alcoholic, one conversation won't do anything. If he isn't ready to quit, nothing you say can make him.

What you can do is reflect to him, his behavior. Tell him that his drinking is getting in the way of your friendship. Don't talk to him about his wife etc. Keep it about you and him.

If you are willing to lose his friendship for his own good, ask him to go to an AA meeting with you. He doesn't have to talk or anything. He can pretend that you are the alcoholic and he's just coming along as your friend. Hopefully, he hears something that stikes a chord.

Recommend to his wife, that she should go to Al-Anon. Often the alcoholic only gets better, when the people in his life learn how not to enable him.

Best of luck.

[mmcd]

I'd focus the conversation on his kid. Just tell him that now that he has a kid, he needs to grow up some and quit getting drunk all the time. If he doesn't he could do irreperable psychological damage to the kid.

If you approach it from the angle of his friends/family being concerned, you're likely to get a F you, or mind your own business type of response, but if you frame the issue in terms of the guy's kid, there's a good chance he'll stop and take stock of his situation.

[jba]

we need to hear more about why you think he has a drinking problem I think. I mean dude won't have a beer during lunch with his buddy? also how old is he? possible he hasn't outgrown the "brag about your drinking" phase and he is just joking around?

we need some concept about how much he drinks, the affect it has on his life, etc.

[chesspain]

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Time for a wake up call. Call social services.

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This advice is stupid on so many levels.

[astroglide]

the psych forum might have good advice

[tonypaladino]

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Kibble was trying to get you to have them take his child away from him. Great idea!

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Wow, it's nice when you've have someone on ignore for a while, and you get confirmation that it still remains the right decision