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Re: have freind with drug problem... it\'s really scaring me. help? in
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Forcing people to stay "clean" does not fix the problem. How long can/will they do this for? [/ QUOTE ] learning to totally avoid the substances that cause problems for a person is just running away, IMO. learning how to drink/use responsibly is the HARD part... some people cannot, though. it's complicated. |
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Re: have freind with drug problem... it\'s really scaring me. help? in
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[ QUOTE ] Forcing people to stay "clean" does not fix the problem. How long can/will they do this for? [/ QUOTE ] learning to totally avoid the substances that cause problems for a person is just running away, IMO. learning how to drink/use responsibly is the HARD part... some people cannot, though. it's complicated. [/ QUOTE ] I heard a different definition/explanation of finding out if you are an addict (of any kind) the other day: If you have to set limits for yourself, you are most likely an addict. For example, if you tell yourself, "I will only buy a pack of smokes instead of a carton, then I will smoke less", you are most likely addicted. I could have 10 pounds of pot in my house and I wouldn't even think about it. I wouldn't have to put any type of "limit" on myself. If you put those same pounds of cocaine in my house, well, wow..... craig |
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Re: have freind with drug problem... it\'s really scaring me. help? in
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I could have 10 pounds of pot in my house and I wouldn't even think about it. I wouldn't have to put any type of "limit" on myself. If you put those same pounds of cocaine in my house, well, wow..... [/ QUOTE ] i hear that [img]/images/graemlins/smirk.gif[/img] |
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Re: have freind with drug problem... it\'s really scaring me. help? in
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[ QUOTE ] Forcing people to stay "clean" does not fix the problem. How long can/will they do this for? [/ QUOTE ] learning to totally avoid the substances that cause problems for a person is just running away, IMO. learning how to drink/use responsibly is the HARD part... some people cannot, though. it's complicated. [/ QUOTE ] did you see the south park? it was about alcohol and the quote I like was something like...if you have to go to AA meetings and convince yourself not to drink, then drinking still has a hold on you and you have problems. When you can have a beer or two and stop is when you are in control. something like that. |
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Re: have freind with drug problem... it\'s really scaring me. help? in
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[ QUOTE ] Forcing people to stay "clean" does not fix the problem. How long can/will they do this for? [/ QUOTE ] learning to totally avoid the substances that cause problems for a person is just running away, IMO. learning how to drink/use responsibly is the HARD part... some people cannot, though. it's complicated. [/ QUOTE ] I find this quote amusing. "Sure, I use to be an addict, but now I only smoke once a day." I do empathize with your problem. An addict myself, I had to find my own bottom and my own way out. And then the desire to help my friends do the same. Unfortunately it doesn't work like that. Not really sure how it works. Your friend will be in my prayers tonight. |
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I find this quote amusing. "Sure, I use to be an addict, but now I only smoke once a day." I do empathize with your problem. An addict myself, I had to find my own bottom and my own way out. And then the desire to help my friends do the same. Unfortunately it doesn't work like that. Not really sure how it works. Your friend will be in my prayers tonight. [/ QUOTE ] well... i AM an atheist, since there's no god, etc, but... thanks. i really appreciate your thoughts (and prayers). I seem to own my own problems, while others are owned by theirs... i have been very lucky and am thankful for that, so far. hmmmm... |
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Re: have freind with drug problem... it\'s really scaring me. help? in
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I've been in your situation too many times. It's really up to her to decide if she wants to listen. The best advice I can give you is to try and catch her maybe after shes gotten some sleep and before she hits the blow again. Sit her down and go over the events that have happened in her life over the past few weeks and how ridiculous she's acting and how far from reality she's strayed. Explain that you care enough that you WILL do something, whether it's call the cops or drive her to a rehab clinic and you won't let up until she's straightened her [censored] out. The key is to apply constant pressure to the situation until something (on her part) is done. If you give her even a window of opportunity to kick you out of her life or go and blow coke again, it will be a neverending story until she's dead/locked up for good. I hope this helps you. At one point in my life almost everyone I knew blew lines (me included) all day everyday. When I started throwing up blood while it was running out of my nose I decided I had to do something about the situation. I think I'm just really realistic and once the bubble of "this is so great" popped, I could never go back. This is the outcome you're aiming for: make her see that it's killing her. |
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