"Do not leave a message"

wacki · #1 10-25-2005, 03:35 AM

Ok, I'm trying to study for a math test and this is ringing through my head. I've had everybody from Lawrence NG to a brain dead "too dumb for crack" booty call one of my friends used to "date" tell me this. I'm a straight shooter, always have been. So I guess I simply have trouble understanding why this maneuver is so important. Can anyone explain the psychology behind this? That being said I almost never leave more than one message in a row but there have been many times were everybody was saying not to leave a message before I even made the first call.

This thread may be interesting, it may be pointless. I've just had a lot of people say this to me in the past few weeks so I have to ask.

Sponger15SB · #2 10-25-2005, 03:37 AM

I have no idea whats going on.

CardSharpCook · #3 10-25-2005, 03:38 AM

Trying to understand the problem... You are questioning the theory behind not leaving a message when you call to ask a girl out?

wacki · #4 10-25-2005, 03:39 AM

That situation is too obvious.

#5 10-25-2005, 03:41 AM

or call afterward.
I think that this whole theory stems from the "get them interested by not appearing interested" theory. However, I've always done just fine treating them just like another person and leaving a message if I wanna.

Of course, then we go into another whole universe of... whaddya say?

Arnfinn Madsen · #6 10-25-2005, 03:41 AM

It is very important in most psychological settings in which you are trying to build a relationship (either personally or professionally) to not leave messages until the relationship is established. The reason is that conversations initiated by the one originally least interested in establishing the relationship (they call back due to the message) get a totally wrong dynamic.

When working in sales I became very conscious of this and tried to avoid constructing situations in which the potential customer would feel that he "had" to contact me before he was convinced that making business with me was worthwhile.

jokerthief · #7 10-25-2005, 03:45 AM

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This is awesome. I felt the same way. Well done sponger.

wacki · #8 10-25-2005, 03:48 AM

Good post Arnfinn.

Arnfinn Madsen · #9 10-25-2005, 03:50 AM

Thx. Gl.

Eurotrash · #10 10-25-2005, 03:52 AM

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count me in.