Is this standard or spewage?

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Buy them gifts. Also try to help out while you are there (like help clean up after dinner, maybe even cook a meal if you have the aptitude). Being a gracious guest is almost always far and away the right play. In no way is it spewage to buy gifts if you can afford to. If you are stumped for gift ideas, things like coffee and coffee paraphanalia are usually safe and welcome gifts if they are coffee drinkers. Going halfsies with the gf is pedestrian, don't do it, put in the (small) extra effort.