Girlfriend says I have major gambling problem and need help.

[bankrobber42]

About six months ago I was introduced to the game of limit holdem at one of the local card rooms. I ordered several books and tried to learn as much about the game as possible. In order to really learn the game you need to play a lot. I started playing online and occasionally at the local card room. Since she worked until 9:00 at night I had time to play from 5:00 – 9:00. One night she game home from work early and busted me playing cards online and flipped out. She asked me how long I have been doing this and I told her that I played almost every night which made her even angrier. I got the silent treatment for about 5 days and then she leaves me a note that says unless I get help for my problem we are through.

My ex girlfriend is an alcohol and drug counselor and thinks she is an expert on other peoples problems. I really did not know if she was right and I was wrong so I went to a clinic that deals with people who have gambling problems and had an assessment. I was completely honest with the gambling that I had been doing during my assessment. In the end he said that I really did not have any problem at all. He said it becomes a problem when you borrow money and get in to deep, steal, miss work, cant make payments all of which I had never done. The only thing wrong that I did according to him was to sneak out and play. In which my reply was if I asked her if I could go the answer was going to be NO. So with my new clean bill of heath I go home and tell her that the counselor said that I did not have a gambling problem. She again went nuts and said the guy sucks and was going to call him the next day and that I was sick and in denial about my gambling problem. We got to arguing about it and I got so pissed that I booted a 90 yard field goal with the plastic garbage bin directly into the oven putting a small dent into it and let a few f in himers slip out.

The next she comes back from work with a list of gambling clinics that I can pick anyone from and go see. In addition is a list of anger management clinics that I also need to pick out one and go see. My dad said that she was very controlling and that I had to put my foot down at sometime and not let her push me around. I told her that not only was I not going to any of those clinics that I would be playing cards 2-3 times a month and if she did not like the door was over there.

She decide that she could not live with a person as sick as me and moved out. Cost me $4600 to refinance to a higher interest rate in which my house payment went from $1100 to $1900. The funny thing is that now with the bills taking up so much of my monthly income I can no longer afford to play cards.

[pudley4]

That sucks.

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The funny thing is that now with the bills taking up so much of my monthly income I can no longer afford to play cards.

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Keep working at it, and eventually you'll have to play poker to meet the bills [img]/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img]

[gamblore99]

thats rough. But it sounds like she was very controlling. Thansk to gambling, you dodged that bullet.

[apd138]

Whats your question?

[kenberman]

I empathize, but you may want to post this in the Psychology forum.

[bisonbison]

This is something you want to do. You're able to do it in a healthy manner, but it's a real bad sign if you can't share that with your significant other

Guy gets secretive, because he expects girlfriend to overreact. Girl discovers guy was being secretive and overreacts.

Sounds like you two were not meant to be. Try to find someone you can be comfortably honest with.

[AngryCola]

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Sounds like you two were not meant to be. Try to find someone you can be comfortably honest with.

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Great advice bison, and I second it.

[Bodhi]

My fiancee is a russian orthodox christian and still lets me gamble all I want. You can do better. Good luck.

[Grisgra]

Reminds me of that episode where Marge gets addicted to the slots.
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Homer: Marge, we need to talk. You're spending too much time at the casino and I think you may have a problem.
Marge: I won sixty dollars last night.
Homer: Woohoo! Problem solved!

[Bodhi]

'nuff said