jobs are important ?

[touchfaith]

I was once told..."Get a job that is your hobby and you will never work again..." and I believe this 100%.

Sounds like your friend has some wiggle-room to go ahead and take an entry level position in the hobby of their choosing.

[gorie]

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Does this person rely on the person they live with for everything? I think it feels good to be able to provide things for oneself. I don't like my job but it gives me somewhere to go during the day, I'd get really bored. I get bored if I stay home for more than one day in a row.

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yes they are dependent on them pretty much.

they say they are trying, and i know it is hard to find jobs , but it just seems like they're stuck on the idea that it's pointless and that bothers me.

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i know it sounds like a stupid question, but how do you convince someone that having a job is important ?

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I'm gonna try and balance the yin and yang here and say that having a job may not be important for him

[Chairman Wood]

I know money may be a problem but a shrink/counselor may help.

[gorie]

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why did you bother to respond just to say that ?

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Because you asked for no mean responses and my only other reasonable choice was to suggest you mind you own business and allow her to live her life the way she chooses.

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you're assuming it is none of my business.
thanks anyway.

[wacki]

I have a friend that is very smart in certain areas, but very dumb in others. He has no emotional control, is very charismatic, and couldn't find the discipline to get through highschool calculus let alone college. He had a job earning 50K a year as a phoneman but hated it. He quit, moved to California and started selling driveways, house remodeling, etc. He loves his new life and seems to be doing very well.

Maybe your friend just needs to mix it up. Or maybe your friend is suffereing from depression. Professional therapy?

[gorie]

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I know money may be a problem but a shrink/counselor may help.

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this isn't a bad idea, i know they are depressed.

but they would just focus on the part that this would cost money that they don't have and would never happen.

[kerssens]

what kinds of things do they like?

[lucas9000]

i think for me the key to approaching them about this is the debt. being free from debt is freedom...havign a job helps you get rid of debt.

also, it's totally unfair for one party to bear the responsibility of supporting the other. if the deadbeat (for lack of a better term...sorry) really cared about the other, he/she would contribute.

[gorie]

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what kinds of things do they like?

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they say they want to help people.