friend problem

[JaBlue]

this is long and there will be a lot of personal history so if you don't want to read that crap stop here. yes its about a girl




Anyway I have a guy friend. We're very good friends. One night there's this girl that takes an eye to me. I am with my guy friend and he takes an eye to her. She's hot, but I pass up anyway as there are plenty of other girls that my friend isn't taking an eye to.

A year and a half later they have a rather serious relationship. He's crazy about her and she him. I found out she's a slut and I do my best to tell him not to get too involved but he doesn't listen and he's crazy about her. She is also a good friend of mine at this point, but she's definitely loosey goosey. Anyway they break up and its really bad.

My friend terminates all contact and friendship with the girl. A month later they still haven't spoken and the girl calls me up. The guy friend has a new girl he's crazy about and I assumed he's moved on. He tends to get very emotional about girls.

So I go see a movie with the girl. Stuff happens and we're messing around back at my place. While this happens I realize its probably not a good idea but I figure it can't be too bad since they aren't on speaking terms. Not to mention she is very fiesty and practically pulling me into her and I am but a man. I [censored] her brains out.

After it all we agree that its probably a bad idea to tell him about it. After a few days I feel guilty and consider telling him. I don't. About a week from that I have pretty much forgotten about the encounter with the girl and file it away thinking nothing of it and hoping that it doesn't resurface.

About a week later the guy becomes very good friends with the girl again. [censored].

Yadda yadda yadda a few months pass and he doesn't know

she ends up telling him after he draws it out of her and he was snooping around to find out some wierd information which is wierd but what can I do. He found out.

Now he hates my guts. He says he won't fight me because he's a pacifist, but it's really because I wouldn't hit him back (why would I fight?). I could kick his ass and would defend myself if he came at me but he wouldn't because I can kick his ass.

Anyway I'd prefer to have this guy as a friend because he is one of my best friends and we also share a group of mutual friends where it will be very awkward if we are in the same vicinity and this issue isn't resolved.

I decided to let the guy cool down and come talk to me if he likes but I've pretty much given up on the friendship. He's a good guy and I recognize that I am definitely in the wrong although he is overreacting.

Anyway, how would you approach this situation? I've tried to give all important information and yes, I have learned the lesson that [censored] a friend's ex is never a good idea.