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Old 08-05-2005, 06:47 PM
ClaytonN ClaytonN is offline
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Default Family situation, need some advice

I've had a truck since age of 16. It was my granddad's old truck, and I've owned it but my mom has owned the insurance and such.

In mid May (day of HS graduation) the parking brake on my truck snapped out of place and the truck rolled down the driveway and hit a tree, making a huge dent in the bumper.

I'm never going to use the truck during the school year bc I'll be a freshman in college, and fixing it now would be a big hit to my net worth going into the college year (cost $350, I have about $2100). The family will be using my truck during the school year, I think. Next summer I'll have more money and will actually be using my truck in the fall at UGA, so fixing the bumper then seems more reasonable.

Unfortunately, the way with everything my mom and stepdad give me, is that every "gift" is conditional. My truck, my cell phone, the cell phone service, are all taken hostage when we have a disagreement. In essence these "gifts" aren't even mine, I'm just using them from my parents under the condition that I *obey*.

Well, I'm going to college now and I think that is horse [censored].

My mom insists I pay for this bumper before college starts or she will sell my truck. I am tired of my possessions from their side of the family being used as a leverage point.

What's my line?
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Old 08-05-2005, 06:49 PM
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Old 08-05-2005, 06:50 PM
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Is the title to the truck in your name? Sue the bastards!

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Old 08-05-2005, 06:52 PM
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Is the title to the truck in your name? Sue the bastards!

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No, my mother has the title to the truck.
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Old 08-05-2005, 06:57 PM
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Default Re: Family situation, need some advice

So you don't own it at all then, unfortunately. If the $300 to fix the truck is too much for your budget right now and your parents refuse to listen to reason I have the following advice/action plan:

1) Your parents are assholes.
2) Tell them to screw off, let them sell the truck for now and start saving money (get a part-time job etc) to buy a vehicle in your own name once you are done with school.

Swede
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Old 08-05-2005, 08:22 PM
Cry Me A River Cry Me A River is offline
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Default Re: Family situation, need some advice

1) If the registration is in your mom's name it's not yours and it never was.

2) Stop accepting gifts that come with strings (ie: If they buy you something that's not in your name, like a vehicle or cell phone contract, man up and tell them to buy you a real gift instead of giving you a loan).

3) Call their bluff on selling the truck - Good luck on them getting much of anything for it in the current condition and are they really going to want to sink money into the repairs just in order to sell it.

4) If they do sell it and you really need a vehicle next year, buy a beater to get you around until you're done with school.

Alternately, do you know anyone (ie: non-jerkish relative) who would be willing to lend you the $300 until next year?
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Old 08-05-2005, 08:23 PM
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Call her raise. She probably only has ten-three suited.
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Old 08-05-2005, 08:28 PM
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How much is the truck's bluebook value, with the dent in it?
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Old 08-05-2005, 08:33 PM
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Default Re: Family situation, need some advice

Sounds like we have the same family. The solution is extremely simple. Stop accepting "gifts".

I moved out of my parents house when I turned 18. Everything I have and everything I own, I worked for and bought myself.

Though the years, family has tried to "give" me something or "help me out". "No, but thanks anyways." is the only thing I have ever given them.

Sometimes they have tried to tell me what to do, or what to do with my things that I have bought myself. Usually my answer is a lot less polite, but it still starts out with "NO..."
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Old 08-05-2005, 08:44 PM
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Aren't you like a parent's wet dream?

Tell them to cut you some [censored] slack for not being a total [censored] up.
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