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06-23-2005, 06:12 PM
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Re: Going for the threesome, long run -EV?
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it will most likely end up costing you your marriage. [/ QUOTE ] yep. she's defensive about it when sober and denies it PLUS the fact that she's kinda jealous!? steer clear, not worth it. 
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06-23-2005, 06:18 PM
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Re: Going for the threesome, long run -EV?
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[ QUOTE ] it will most likely end up costing you your marriage. [/ QUOTE ] yep. she's defensive about it when sober and denies it PLUS the fact that she's kinda jealous!? steer clear, not worth it. [/ QUOTE ] I know you're right, but what about if she brings it up? It's not likely, but also not impossible IMO. How do I play that hand. Denying that opportunity would certainly be tough, but I would earn tons of brownie points and suspicion free nights out with the boys.
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06-23-2005, 06:23 PM
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Re: Going for the threesome, long run -EV?
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[ QUOTE ] [ QUOTE ] it will most likely end up costing you your marriage. [/ QUOTE ] yep. she's defensive about it when sober and denies it PLUS the fact that she's kinda jealous!? steer clear, not worth it. [/ QUOTE ] I know you're right, but what about if she brings it up? It's not likely, but also not impossible IMO. How do I play that hand. Denying that opportunity would certainly be tough, but I would earn tons of brownie points and suspicion free nights out with the boys. [/ QUOTE ] If she does something like kiss or flirt heavily with a friend when drunk, tell her the next day. Tell her its ok and doesn't bother you, but don't be defensive about it, its perfectly natural. Until you have this discussion and you can talk openly about it, even if she brings it up, you'll be dealing with a world of [censored] the next day. "I can't believe you said yes, I was drunk, I didn't really want to" etc...
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06-23-2005, 06:30 PM
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Re: Going for the threesome, long run -EV?
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If she does something like kiss or flirt heavily with a friend when drunk, tell her the next day. Tell her its ok and doesn't bother you, but don't be defensive about it, its perfectly natural. Until you have this discussion and you can talk openly about it, even if she brings it up, you'll be dealing with a world of [censored] the next day. "I can't believe you said yes, I was drunk, I didn't really want to" etc... [/ QUOTE ] I think this is good advice. I mostly started the thread to breed some half-hearted, witty advice. I'm surprised the tone has been so serious. So far it has only confirmed what I had suspected myself. Stories about people who have had this happen to them while in a relationship?
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06-23-2005, 06:25 PM
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Re: Going for the threesome, long run -EV?
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I know you're right, but what about if she brings it up? [/ QUOTE ] If she brings it up sometime when sober, then I think you should discuss it pretty thoroughly. In particular, I think you should argue the cons fairly forcefully. The jealousy issue is a major one, and if there's even a hint of that it's probably going to be difficult to deal with after the fact. This is the number one reason why my girlfriend would have no interest in it, for example. As for her sober rejection of any kind of hint of lesbian attraction, I don't think that this is nearly as bad. It's possible that she'll flip out about this and pin some of the blame on you, but I think this is far less of a concern than the jealousy stuff. I concur with most of the posters here that given how you've described the situation, it's probably unwise for you to maneuver for it at all if your main goal is a long-term, happy marriage (assuming that you're happy in a marriage that doesn't involve threesomes.) This goes double for letting it happen some night when she's drunk.
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06-23-2005, 06:35 PM
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Re: Going for the threesome, long run -EV?
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Denying that opportunity would certainly be tough, but I would earn tons of brownie points and suspicion free nights out with the boys. [/ QUOTE ] Your best play and its not even close. An awkward next morning and who knows what else is way too big a price to pay for one night of passion. Remember, you two signed up for a lifetime of "to have and to hold"; the first year or two is all about getting to know one another and establishing boundries. You'll have a whole lifetime to follow through on this if it truly is in the cards but I would be damn certain its the right thing to do before initiating anything at all. If she's defensive around the subject now and even the slightest bit jealous, forget about it cause it can't work until you can talk openly and securely about it. cbf
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06-23-2005, 06:14 PM
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it will most likely end up costing you your marriage. [/ QUOTE ] mirrors my thoughts. depends how valuable your marriage is to you because I dount it would survive long after this.
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#9
06-23-2005, 06:18 PM
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Re: Going for the threesome, long run -EV?
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[ QUOTE ] it will most likely end up costing you your marriage. [/ QUOTE ] mirrors my thoughts. depends how valuable your marriage is to you because I dount it would survive long after this. [/ QUOTE ] i do so enjoy your avatar.
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#10
06-23-2005, 06:27 PM
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Re: Going for the threesome, long run -EV?
I say go for it. If you wanna play the averages your marriage is going to end in ruins anyway (I'd say the fact ure even making this post means ure marriage is about 80% to fail in the future). You might as well get some good 3 way sex out of the deal before your wife gets fat, shits out a couple kids and you spend the rest of your life slaving away to make alimony and child support payments. This way you avoid having to do all that.
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