Do you rat out your 16 year old nephew if you think he's toking?

[TxSteve]

she already knows he has occasionaly drank (bad english ftw).

she does not approve of that...but isn't sure how to combat it. she is reluctant to do the sort of drastic things that i would think need to be done...like grounding him forever...or not letting him hang out with those kids that he drinks with.

i'm thinking thinking that if she sees that his partying is a bit more serious....then she'll be forced to be more serious about it. the goal; after all is for him to keep his braincells...not get anyone pregnant...not kill or hurt himself or anyone else driving drunk...and grow up to get the most out of life that he can