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Re: Consoling a friend
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Lost: The Complete First Season [/ QUOTE ] nice play klepton. |
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they broke up for good. [/ QUOTE ] No they didn't. |
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[ QUOTE ] they broke up for good. [/ QUOTE ] No they didn't. [/ QUOTE ] They went through this a month ago and barely got back together. I know both of them very well. |
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[ QUOTE ] they broke up for good. [/ QUOTE ] No they didn't. [/ QUOTE ] I tend to wonder. Often times 'for good' that results within 24 hours isn't necessarily true. That said, I hope things work out for him. Drinking isn't the solution. A movie or tv show is a much better option. |
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1. make chocolate chip cookies
2. get him really stoned and talk about cars 3. assure him that she will change her mind after she has a chance to cool off and that they can work things out. |
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i like how your 1 & 2 work together, good work.
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1. make chocolate chip cookies 2. get him really stoned and talk about cars 3. assure him that she will change her mind after she has a chance to cool off and that they can work things out. [/quote 1. great idea. 2. neither of us have any weed and can't find any today [img]/images/graemlins/frown.gif[/img] 3. the split was mutually agreed upon after she hit him on his already-broken arm. he dosn't want to get back with her, just needs some consoling. |
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I don't think drinking is a good idea.
I would simply suggesting listening to him if he wants to talk. A lot of people in these situations just want to rant and get it out. Let him do that and don't try to be too critical of him even if he's wrong. Wait to point out where he went wrong until later. edit: wanted to add that if he doesn't want to talk about it you should watch a movie or something like that, where you aren't just sitting there with the elephant in the room and little to discuss. |
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I don't think drinking is a good idea. I would simply suggesting listening to him if he wants to talk. A lot of people in these situations just want to rant and get it out. Let him do that and don't try to be too critical of him even if he's wrong. Wait to point out where he went wrong until later. edit: wanted to add that if he doesn't want to talk about it you should watch a movie or something like that, where you aren't just sitting there with the elephant in the room and little to discuss. [/ QUOTE ] Right. This isn't a situation that can be solved with a night out on the town. His thoughts are going to be else where for a long time. I echo what the hippy says, he's undoubtedly a sensitive guy who knows of such things, beyond that if you do go out I would keep it somewhat simple with a movie or other activity where he can just escape his thoughts for an hour or so. |
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Re: Consoling a friend
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I don't think drinking is a good idea. I would simply suggesting listening to him if he wants to talk. A lot of people in these situations just want to rant and get it out. Let him do that and don't try to be too critical of him even if he's wrong. Wait to point out where he went wrong until later. edit: wanted to add that if he doesn't want to talk about it you should watch a movie or something like that, where you aren't just sitting there with the elephant in the room and little to discuss. [/ QUOTE ] I agree with what I think is part of the emphasis here. Get the hell out of the house and don't get into parsing the fine details of what could be taken as his failure. Don't just let there be a heavy silence and boredom hanging around that he can fill with brooding over his misery. |
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