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Re: Gave my 2 week notice
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good luck, BigRed! i know from experience that doing this with a wife and kids does add significant stress to marriage and home life. it's been 6 months for me now, and it does seem to be getting better, but my life is still more difficult since quitting my job. not so much money-wise, but stress wise. i get to spend a lot more time with my kids, but i also argue with my wife a lot more. PM me if you want to discuss. tripdad [/ QUOTE ] I don't mind discussing this here. I haven't started my full time poker thing yet, but I know exactly what you are talking about because it was as if I was playing poker for full time in the past 3 years. I was keeping a day job while puttnig in 5 to 6 hours at night playing poker, so it really tested my wife's patience many times. She never liked the fact that I was playing poker, but she knew it was helping our finances so she took the good with the bad. We've had many fights over how I wasn't helping as much with the house chores and the baby as most husbands would, and I know she's right about that. I always came out on the losing end on those arguement. But we have a pretty solid relationship and I'm lucky that she's willing to cut me a lot of slack for me to do this. When we decided on this move, we reasoned that extra time I will now have during the day will alleviate some of the stuff we fought about. I really hope it turns out that way because I want to do things right. We've been married for 3 years now which is also how long I've been doing this day job night job thing, so she really did put up a lot with my crap. Do you not find that it is now easier to make time for family since poker is the only job you have? How was it for you when you were doing the day job plus poker? |
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Re: Gave my 2 week notice
i also thought playing full time would allow extra time with the family, and in many ways, this is the case. however, now that i do not have to report to work at a certain time, my wife treats my new "job" with disregard in many ways.
she thinks i can take time off for any reason and at any time, and it has been a struggle to play the amount of time i need to in order to support my wife and 4 kids. she gets mad when i tell her i cannot do "this or that" because i NEED to play this tournament or log in so many hours of ring play. before, when i worked, she had help around the house and with the kids (they are all under 3 years old). now that i'm not working, she doesn't want my mom or hers over here as much, and she looks to me to pick up the slack, which makes me mad because i need to play. tripdad |
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4 kids. (they are all under 3 years old) [/ QUOTE ] im guessing you dont fire blanks |
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Good luck and I wish you much success. I'm trying to get my debts down (ie. mortgage) before I pull the trigger. Keep us updated, I love threads like these. Sorta living my life vicarioulsy through you.
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Good luck and I wish you much success. I'm trying to get my debts down (ie. mortgage) before I pull the trigger. Keep us updated, I love threads like these. Sorta living my life vicarioulsy through you. [/ QUOTE ] Sounds like you are doing it the right way, getting your debts down. There's no way I could've paid down my mortgage soon enough to do this, so I'm carrying my mortgage into this. It's gonna be a challenge no doubt. Good luck to you also. |
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[ QUOTE ] Good luck and I wish you much success. I'm trying to get my debts down (ie. mortgage) before I pull the trigger. Keep us updated, I love threads like these. Sorta living my life vicarioulsy through you. [/ QUOTE ] Sounds like you are doing it the right way, getting your debts down. There's no way I could've paid down my mortgage soon enough to do this, so I'm carrying my mortgage into this. It's gonna be a challenge no doubt. Good luck to you also. [/ QUOTE ] as for mortgages, i have 13 of those as well (we have rental apartments and houses...one of which sustained $20K+ in water damage over Christmas weekend [img]/images/graemlins/frown.gif[/img]). damn, you guys got it easy. tripdad |
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BTW, i jusr calculated the hours i've put in actually playing poker over the last 6 months. i've averaged 32 hours per week playing, both online and live.
before quitting work, i probably played 15 hours per week, plus worked 38 on average. tripdad |
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wow, 4 children, all under 3!!!
I have one 8 month old and he's already a handful. God bless you. |
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