Do other peoples' stereotypes affect your actions?

[ShawnHoo]

Do you ever find yourself trying to act a particular way because of stereotypes that others might have of you? For example, a friend of mine said he makes sure to be extra generous with tipping waiters -- he doesn't want folks to be able to point at him and say "see, Jewish people are stingy".

[istewart]

Does he introduce himself to the waiters as Ruben Rosenbaum at the beginning of each meal?

[BreakfastBurrito]

Schnazz is always a dead giveaway.

[istewart]

Not on all.

[eric5148]

Is your friend Kyle's cousin Kyle?

[ShawnHoo]

I think he was also referring to what others who know him might think if they saw him did this.

FWIW, a former co-worker of mine (who was also Jewish) was notoriously bad about tipping/splitting the bill whenever we went out to lunch, and my friend (who also worked with us) got especially offended by that.

[KungFuSandwich]

Im from Georgia but go to the University of Florida. I have to be careful what I say because the drawl causes people to assume Im a racist, sexist and/or dumb.

I had a friend make a sarcastic remark about barefoot pregnant women, and most of the class got that he was sarcastic, but one girl started yelling at him saying, "Im going to put you on my list of people who are racist and sexist and dont know it"

[Blarg]

I find being apologetic or appearing to because of who you are only further confirms prejudices.

A friend of mine used to tell people that he thought it was okay that they were black. Oh boy...