My typical day

ScottTheFish · #1 11-17-2005, 01:18 AM

[ QUOTE ]
I think it is healthy for a child to interact with other children instead of being home with their mother all the day. There are other benefits besides developing social skills, such as strengthening the immune system.

[/ QUOTE ]

So take the kid to the park. Take him to play dates with other kids in the neighborhood. Take him to a Mother's Day Out program for 2 hours 2 or 3 times a week.

There are other choices in between full time daycare and total seclusion, geez.

Freudian · #2 11-17-2005, 01:25 AM

[ QUOTE ]
[ QUOTE ]
I think it is healthy for a child to interact with other children instead of being home with their mother all the day. There are other benefits besides developing social skills, such as strengthening the immune system.

[/ QUOTE ]

So take the kid to the park. Take him to play dates with other kids in the neighborhood. Take him to a Mother's Day Out program for 2 hours 2 or 3 times a week.

There are other choices in between full time daycare and total seclusion, geez.

[/ QUOTE ]

Yes. And she has chosen an option that works for her. But young men(?) on this forum can't accept it but tries to twist it into a moral argument that is as modern as the Gutenberg way of printing books.

#3 11-17-2005, 01:37 AM

i was going to read through the whole thread but was disgusted with all the absurd remarks about daycare. It is POSITIVE for children to be put in social environments away from home at an early age. Read some parenting books, take some child psychology classes. Any parent that keeps their kid at home when they can easily put them in a good day care a few hours a day/week is doing their child a diservice. I'm sure some people have already addressed this, but I still noticed the same kind of posts on the last page of this thread.

ScottTheFish · #4 11-17-2005, 01:46 AM

[ QUOTE ]
It is POSITIVE for children to be put in social environments away from home at an early age. Read some parenting books

[/ QUOTE ]

Sure it is, for 4 or 5 hours a week. Not 30 or 40 or 50. Which parenting books recommend full time daycare over a stay at home parent? That's right, none.

ScottTheFish · #5 11-17-2005, 01:43 AM

[ QUOTE ]

Yes. And she has chosen an option that works for her.

[/ QUOTE ]
Yep, works great for her. For the kid, not so much.

[ QUOTE ]

But young men(?) on this forum can't accept it but tries to twist it into a moral argument that is as modern as the Gutenberg way of printing books.

[/ QUOTE ]

If thinking a baby is better off with his mother than in day care makes me less than modern, I'd rather hang out with Gutenberg, thanks. I'm going out on a limb and guessing you don't have a child.

Freudian · #6 11-17-2005, 01:49 AM

[ QUOTE ]

Yep, works great for her. For the kid, not so much.

[/ QUOTE ]

You know zilch about her and her child, yet you seem to think you can judge her. Quite arrogant. Most research point towards daycare being positive for the development of children. But hey, whats science against moral condemnation. I guess putting the scarlet letter on others brings you more joy than entering the 20th century mentally.

[ QUOTE ]
If thinking a baby is better off with his mother than in day care makes me less than modern, I'd rather hang out with Gutenberg, thanks. I'm going out on a limb and guessing you don't have a child.

[/ QUOTE ]

I'm going out on a limb and guessing that you are american. Because that is the only country that where someone would be branded a bad mother for using daycare.

ScottTheFish · #7 11-17-2005, 01:58 AM

I'll say it again. 4 or 5 hours a week of interaction with other kids away form home is GREAT. NECESSARY. HIGHLY RECOMMENDED. I never said it wasn't. All daycare is not bad. Read that again. I agree with you there.

But that's not what happens. They're there ALL DAY. EVERY DAY. 40 hours a week. Sometimes more. And it's not so they learn social skills and build their immune system. Those are rationalizations.

They are there so their parents can work more and afford
better cars and a nicer house.

Yes there are single parents, etc. that have no choice. Families with 2 young healthy educated parents can live on 1 income if they choose to. That's who I'm talking about.

Freudian · #8 11-17-2005, 02:02 AM

[ QUOTE ]
I'll say it again. 4 or 5 hours a week of interaction with other kids away form home is GREAT. NECESSARY. HIGHLY RECOMMENDED. I never said it wasn't. All daycare is not bad. Read that again. I agree with you there.

But that's not what happens. They're there ALL DAY. EVERY DAY. 40 hours a week. Sometimes more. And it's not so they learn social skills and build their immune system. Those are rationalizations.

They are there so their parents can work more and afford
better cars and a nicer house.

Yes there are single parents, etc. that have no choice. Families with 2 young healthy educated parents can live on 1 income if they choose to. That's who I'm talking about.

[/ QUOTE ]

Women in the workplace. Who came up with that crazy idea?
Not like the good old days. Those selfish evil women should know their place.

ScottTheFish · #9 11-17-2005, 02:18 AM

[ QUOTE ]

Women in the workplace. Who came up with that crazy idea?
Not like the good old days. Those selfish evil women should know their place.

[/ QUOTE ]

Nice sarcasm. Did you even read my post? Where did I say women shouldn't work? My wife works while my son is at school.

And yes I do think choosing money over time with your baby is selfish. And yes I think 40 hours a week with the mom and 10 hours in daycare is better than the other way around, but hey, I'm just old fashioned like that.

Kablooie · #10 11-17-2005, 02:23 AM

Yeah, i love the way men are so happy to work three jobs to keep the kids out of daycare - but actually stay at home with the kid themselves? Nah, that's Mum's job. If they had had the wonderful experience of taking care of toddlers full time, they'd probably appreciate the equal importance of a few hours peace and quiet whilst somebody else takes care of the little brats.