how pissed off should i be?

[Jordan]

agreed. you've echoed one of my biggest concerns.

[4_2_it]

You are correct to be pissed. Just be thankful that things didn't escalate into anything worse.

If the guy did dial his number from your GF's cell have her file an assault complaint against these 'tards. The cops shouldn't have any trouble tracking them down. Even if she doesn't want to testify they will at least at a minimum they get hassled by the law.

[rory]

does oot need a lesson in reading comprehension

he is talking about being pissed at his girl not the dudes

[Jordan]

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he is talking about being pissed at his girl not the dudes

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This whole situation has me pretty pissed off, but I'm pretty convinced that she did nothing wrong and that these guys are just a bunch of sick perverted individuals.

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what?

[rory]

if you dont understand how that sentence implies you think it is possible she did something wrong, then you need to go back to middle school english class. two guys get up on your girl against her will and sexually assault her and you think that probably she did 'nothing wrong'. nice. retard.

[Jordan]

even if i think there's a chance she could/should have taken more prevenative measures, i am certainly way more pissed off at the assholes than her. i'm doing my best to comfort her and convince her that it's not her fault.

[David04]

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Which I don't understand. OP, are you one of those guys who thinks that rape is a girls fault "because she was asking for it"?

[Jordan]

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Which I don't understand. OP, are you one of those guys who thinks that rape is a girls fault "because she was asking for it"?

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of course not. my main concern is that she doesn't want to do anything about the situation. she just wants to drop it, but i won't let herself do that until she forgives herself. she thinks it's her fault because she could have prevented it. i think she's wrong.

[David04]

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Which I don't understand. OP, are you one of those guys who thinks that rape is a girls fault "because she was asking for it"?

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of course not. my main concern is that she doesn't want to do anything about the situation. she just wants to drop it, but i won't let herself do that until she forgives herself. she thinks it's her fault because she could have prevented it. i think she's wrong.

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A lot of girls in this situation would feel the same way. I think you just have to sympathize with her, try to encourage her to take legal action. If she doesn't want the police involved, I don't think it is really your spot to take charge of the situation. Let her deal with it how she sees fit.

[rory]

you are at a club and two huge dudes corner you in the back. they mess around with you for a while and then one of them sticks their hand down your pants and starts jerking you off. do you think a reasonable reaction on your part might be to be mortified, terrified, embarassed, ashamed and wanting to get the hell out of there and forget it ever happened? i do. i especially think you would feel pretty awesome if you confided in someone what happened and they responded by wondering if you maybe did something to bring it on yourself. nice.

anyway, what will happen if you call the cops will be this: you will call up, say my girlfriend was assaulted blah blah this is the guys number. the cops may or may not do anything about it. but if it even goes to trial, the guys will go, "no we didn't, i gave her my number and she called me. she is crazy." and she will go "no you guys did all that stuff" and their lawyer will go, "ok prove it" and then the guys will go home. its terrible that it happened to your girl but nothing is going to happen if she tries to do anything about it. respect that she wants to put the terrible experience behind her and move on.