What does this mean? (girl problems, yay!)

[weevil]

I've had this happen several times, both times with women friends who I was attracted to and mildy flirted with, but had a good friendship with. After a particularly enjoyable evening hanging out, or after a particular comment I'd make, they'd shyly tell me they loved me.

The first time it happened, I had no idea what to think; we'd never dated, nor openly hinted at the possibility, so the circumstances seemed to warrant I not read too much into it. So I didn't, and the next week the girl hooked up with some other guy.

With another girl, it has happened several times within the last month, and again, I didn't read into it too much, save for enjoying being appreciated enough for such a comment. After the last time this particular girl told me she loved me, she started dating another guy the following week.

Should I be interpreting this as a not so thinly veiled hint for me to stop being a pansy and ask the girl out? Or is this something girls only say to guys they really care about but aren't romantically interested in?

[diebitter]

Sounds like they are feeling the lust at the particular point they're saying it. It's an 'ask out' moment if you can't kiss etc at that paricular circumstance/moment, and it's an acting right then and there moment if you can find somewhere or are somewhere you've got the time and space to continue as long as you want to.

Having said all that, it is possibly just a declaration of friendship. At the very outside, it might be a true 'I love you', but not that likely.

But hell, it's a woman, so who knows?


PS. If I find her attractive, my play here would be look in her eyes, have a cheeky smile, move closer (enough for her to feel your breath or at least be aware your now in her personal space) and say something teasing/flirty like 'You love me? How much?' or 'Tell me more...' or 'don't say stuff like that - you are too beautiful to be a tease...' or somesuch. That's putting it back to her strong, but you both got laughing/fun as a getout.

[LethalRose]

You need to analyze what the words mean to each girl. Some girls say "I love you" to all of their boyfriends, for other girls it means she wants to spend her life with you. That [censored] would scare me

The correct play is:
"I love you too!"
<insert nut into bolt>

[tonypaladino]

I crack jokes and try to be funny when I talk to girls. Once every 600 times or so, I'll go on a run and everything I say the whole night will be really good and funny, and it sometimes brings and "I love you" from the girl as she's laughing. I think some girls take it lightly and just say it to mean "I love hanging out/talking/drinking with you.

[Josh W]

There are a lot of "love"s out there.

But stop being a pansy.

[siccjay]

These girls don't dig you sexually because you are a pansy.

If they are saying I love you to you and you haven't hooked up with them yet, you are definitely too late.

[phil_ivey_fan]

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I've had this happen several times, both times with women friends who I was attracted to and mildy flirted with, but had a good friendship with. After a particularly enjoyable evening hanging out, or after a particular comment I'd make, they'd shyly tell me they loved me.

The first time it happened, I had no idea what to think; we'd never dated, nor openly hinted at the possibility, so the circumstances seemed to warrant I not read too much into it. So I didn't, and the next week the girl hooked up with some other guy.

With another girl, it has happened several times within the last month, and again, I didn't read into it too much, save for enjoying being appreciated enough for such a comment. After the last time this particular girl told me she loved me, she started dating another guy the following week.

Should I be interpreting this as a not so thinly veiled hint for me to stop being a pansy and ask the girl out? Or is this something girls only say to guys they really care about but aren't romantically interested in?

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your kung fu is so weak I want to kill myself. SIIHP

[jakethebake]

You should say, "thank you, would you like to express that love in an extremely freaky and physical way." And then bang her until she stops breathing.

[WDC]

are they drunk? Women say they love you a lot when they are tipsy, even my wife says it to me after a bottle of wine.