Question for Thirtysomethings or older...

[Talk2BigSteve]

Tuesday I will turn 31. I have been very depressed lately. I am nowhere close to where at 21 I thought I would be in 10 years. My life has been in a rut for 5+ years.

Here are some reasons why (in no particular order)...

My significant other (Kyle) gets killed by an underage drunk driver.
I was laid off from my dream job at IBM in Dallas, and in the past 7 years in of being in Mississippi have never had a year where I even made 1/2 of what I made in Dallas.
A house fire destroys everything I hold dear including every physical memory and momento of my life with Kyle as well as all my childhood things.
I severely injured my right leg at a job here which requires almost 3 years of my life for surguries/recovery to get to a point that I can walk as best I can from.
My father dies of a heart attack at the age of 60 (A great man but one who lived far beyond his means and paycheck to paycheck).
I had to move in with my mother to take care of bills so she was not left destitute.
A year ago I found out that I am diabetic.
A couple months ago I come very close to being killed in a head on collision where I break my good leg.


Do you ever wonder where the hell did I go wrong in life to get to this point? I sure as hell do.

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[gorie]

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I am nowhere close to where at 21 I thought I would be in 10 years.

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i am sure a lot of people feel this way...

[this guy]

You should adopt a child.

[Mayhap]

In most life histories, it is the compilation of 'go wrongs' that lead to 'go rights' and success down the road. Keep the faith and cultivate appreciation of the many nice things that unfold around you each day.

$0.02 from a not quite geriatric mofo.

[Matty]

What a very un-gay post. :-/

[Roybert]

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In most life histories, it is the compilation of 'go wrongs' that lead to 'go rights' and success down the road. Keep the faith and cultivate appreciation of the many nice things that unfold around you each day.

$0.02 from a not quite geriatric mofo.

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I'll be 30 in a week. Could not have said it better than this. Keep your chin up and Good luck, dude.

[HopeydaFish]

Well, it sounds like the next ten years can't possibly turn out to be any worse than the last ten.

[benjdm]

That's some horrible luck. There is no 'cause' to make you deserve luck, which I am sure you know on an intellectual level. I don't know what you can do other than hang in there and make the best of it. I just about yell at my wife sometimes when she complains about some piddly little thing not going right and doesn't appreciate how bad others have it sometimes.

I hope things go better for you from here on out.

[Talk2BigSteve]

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In most life histories, it is the compilation of 'go wrongs' that lead to 'go rights' and success down the road. Keep the faith and cultivate appreciation of the many nice things that unfold around you each day.

$0.02 from a not quite geriatric mofo.

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I totally agree with this. I have a lot of great things in my life. I was just listing some of the bad.

I hate to say it because I will get Phil Hellmuth jokes, but I do relaxation techniques and Buddhist meditation everyday.

When I get finished with the walker and all, I am going to start back on my diet & exercise plan, it worked for the first 70+ pounds, now I have about 85 lbs more to go.

I have a lot of good going for me, it is just not as good as I would have thought I would have at this point.

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[Stuey]

This is by no means meant to make light of your problems. You have some toughies there, I just wanted to make you feel better and this made me feel better in the past.




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