How to answer this common female question?

[JihadOnTheRiver]

I'll save the story as to how this came up and just ask how you answer this question from a girl:

"Would you break up with me if I got fat?"

I think the problem arises for me from the fact that my honest answer is yes, for various reasons (and no I do not think this is shallow, my reasons are valid). So when I'm asked this question, I tend to not want to lie and give the girl the wrong idea. Have you guys ever had this problem?

[swede123]

We're still together, aren't we?

[jakethebake]

Why? Are you planning to?

[imported_The Vibesman]

You could try giving your honest answer and the various reasons.

It amazes me how many people this doesn't occur to.

[JihadOnTheRiver]

It occured to me. That's exactly what I did.

[imported_The Vibesman]

Good. She understands you or she doesn't.

It's not uncommon for people to get irrational when they are discussing things like this. If this is the case, try to calmly and clearly point out where she is being irrational. If she continues, tell her you're not going to discuss it unless she's willing to look at all sides of the argument. If that doesn't work, tell her you don't like games and to f**k off until she wants to be an adult.

[jaydub]

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try to calmly and clearly point out where she is being irrational.

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tell her you're not going to discuss it unless she's willing to look at all sides of the argument.

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If that doesn't work, tell her you don't like games


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Dude have you ever talked to a woman? [img]/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img]

[Patrick del Poker Grande]

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try to calmly and clearly point out where she is being irrational.

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tell her you're not going to discuss it unless she's willing to look at all sides of the argument.

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If that doesn't work, tell her you don't like games


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Dude have you ever talked to a woman? [img]/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img]

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It reminds me of the only good line from the movie As Good As It Gets. For those who haven't seen it, Jack Nicholson is an author of women's novels. He's asked by a fan how he writes women's roles so well. His answer is "I think of a man, and I take away reason and accountability."

[imported_The Vibesman]

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try to calmly and clearly point out where she is being irrational.

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tell her you're not going to discuss it unless she's willing to look at all sides of the argument.

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If that doesn't work, tell her you don't like games


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Dude have you ever talked to a woman? [img]/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img]

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The Vibesgirl and I have been together for ten years, exactly because we talk to each other like this. My last few relationships were with psychos who thought they had to project a completely false personality for their boyfriends in order to be accepted. I don't go for that. I don't go for head games. When the Vibesgirl and I got together, we were both pretty wary of close relationships, as she was getting over a bad marriage, and I was getting over a terrible relationship with a completely psycho girl that I actually had to threaten with a restraining order after I found out how much she had been lying to me. (Example: This girl told me she had given birth at 14 to a daughter who had died at the age of 3, which was a total lie.) The Vibesgirl and I agreed that we would be completely honest with each other. It wasn't easy. There were a few issues we had to work out. But now we can say anything to each other, and I wouldn't have it any other way.

One of the hardest things about this method? Being honest with yourself, to yourself about yourself. It's hard to admit your faults or insecurities to someone else. It's damn near impossible when you won't acknowledge them yourself.

[jakethebake]

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You could try giving your honest answer and the various reasons.

It amazes me how many people this doesn't occur to.

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You want the truth? You can't handle the truth!