Relative overstaying their welcoime

[swede123]

Your mom isn't just "relatives". If she wants to stay close to her relative for a month, so be it. Just clarify with your mom that your commitment only includes her staying there. Go about your own business, dont worry about entertaining her etc.

Swede

[JonPKibble]

Henry,

When the tables are turned, you will probably reconsider.

I feel you Henry because its so irrational of her. If you explained it to her as logically as possible and she still doesnt understand, try tricking her into leaving. Say her other cousin is sick at a hospital near her house.

If that doesnt work, start banging your gf with the door open, say its for 'ventilation'.

[man]

the way I look at the mother-offspring relationship is that when you were young, she took care of you for everything you could possibly have asked for (at least I'm assuming this much). when she gets older, she needs to lean on her offspring more and more. this appears to be one of those times where she needs your assistance very badly. she was clearly very close to your grandmother/aunt/father/uncle or whomever it is in the hospital (who was it, by the way? I think this matters). you should've put first things first, though, and made a living agreement. it's not too late, though.

I don't think anyone can call you a sick [censored] for wanting her out of there, but I'm guessing you're at a point in your life where your career, your relationships, and your life, tends to take precedence over everyone else's. that's clearly acceptable in some scenarios, but you have to understand where to draw the line and make sacrifices for others. in the case of your mother, consider it a repayment of debt.

[jaxUp]

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Your mom isn't just "relatives". If she wants to stay close to her relative for a month, so be it. Just clarify with your mom that your commitment only includes her staying there. Go about your own business, dont worry about entertaining her etc.

Swede

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Yeah, if not a parent I think you could talk to them about shipping out. And you shouldn't have to change your lifestyle just because your mom is there. If she is reasonable (which she should be since you're letting her stay there) she will understand this.