Help getting out of Honey-Do list.

[PennDenn]

I need some serious sugestions on how to get out of Honey-Do list so I can get back to poker.
Yesterday transplanted 6 bushes. Today I hung a ceiling fan in the kitchen and the list keeps growing.
I am not a Redneck so the ole "What do you say to a woman with two black eyes?" will not work.
If you answer this post let us know your material status. Divorced guys ideas will be taken with a grain of salt.
Single guys............. Well we envy you.

[Emperor]

Schedule.

Put all the honey do things on the schedule, put poker on the schedule. Get her to agree to it. Stick to it.

Life will be much easier.

[surfdoc]

Show her that your win rate is much greater than the hourly rate of a handyman. If that doesn't work, begging/groveling (?sp) is always an option. If that doesn't work, grow a pair of balls. And yes, I am married. I also have a full time job and played 30K hands last month.

[balkii]

If you answer this post let us know your material status.

is there a pennsylvania in like sweden or something? or are you a full grown english speaking fellow who doesnt know the difference between "marital" and "material?"

[PuckNPoker]

Way to nit, good job!

[Paul2432]

I have a set time I play. Most nights 9-12 PM. Weekends during the day I devote to her. If we have plans on a Friday or Saturday night obviously I don't play that night.

My wife is usually watching TV or reading during this time.

My advice would be to play while she is doing whatever she does to relax.

Paul

[Onaflag]

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I have a set time I play. Most nights 9-12 PM. Weekends during the day I devote to her. If we have plans on a Friday or Saturday night obviously I don't play that night.

My wife is usually watching TV or reading during this time.

My advice would be to play while she is doing whatever she does to relax.

Paul

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What he said.

The thing is, each of you need hobbies of your own. Perfoming tasks around the house is as much of a benefit to you as it is to her. Thinking of them as honey-dos may be the first problem.

Secondly, marriages don't tend to last when one takes the master role and the other bows down just to keep the peace. The peace will only last until someone gets fed up with being pushed around. I've been married 21 years and it has been no piece of cake. I play poker when I damn well feel like it and do the chores when I damn well feel like it.

If she makes a huge stink, then I shut the computer off for a while, but if that happens, there are other issues at hand and poker is the easiest target at the moment. Address the other issues, then get back to poker.

Keeping a marriage together ain't rocket science. It's a Hell of a lot harder.

Onaflag..........

[BigBaitsim (milo)]

Use your negotiation skills. Marriage is a contract. Find out what she wants and offer a deal. As others have said, agree to a schedule. I generally offer to take the kids to the park for a few hours on Saturday morning or Sunday afternoon, so she can have some alone time in exchange for some extra poker time. We also trade off what I jokingly call "visitation." I take the kids on Thursday nights. She can go shopping, hang out with her sisters, or do whatever. On Friday night, she takes the kids and I go to Canterbury. On most weeknights I give the kids their baths (which she hates to do) and get kids into their PJs, then get online to play while she puts them to bed.

We have negotiated many other mutually beneficial deals I won't mention here.

[grimel]

Just don't do it. My honey-do list is about 10pgs, the first 7 are from the 1st year. I figure 3 pages added in 8 yrs isn't too bad.

[Schwartzy61]

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Just don't do it. My honey-do list is about 10pgs, the first 7 are from the 1st year. I figure 3 pages added in 8 yrs isn't too bad.

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I'm single, but I'm thinking this probably isn't the best course of action...