Opinions please: Maxim Magazine & My teenage son

[B Dids]

Maxim will do more to [censored] up the kid's head than gonzo porn would.

A- let the kid watch porn

B- if you don't want to, then something like Maxim is just retarded as an alternative. (honestly- like somebody else said, it's portrayal of women is MUCH more negative than Playboy, and the writing is HORRIBLE).

[YourFoxyGrandma]

I hope you see the irony in coming to a gambling internet forum for parenting advice.

[Felix_Nietsche]

That post was gross. [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]

[gorie]

i know nothing about maxim magazine. but as a girl growing up i consider myself to have had good morals, didn't drink, do drugs, or have sex. aka a boring teenager. and not because my parents were strict or anything like that, i just didn't want to.

but anyway, i did look at porn sometimes. people like sex and are extremely curious at that age. i don't think it's going to have a bad effect on your son that he looks at porn. and most teenagers are going to find ways to do things their parents don't want them to do.

i think it is good that he knows it is not acceptable in your opinion as a parent for him to be looking at porn. i think it'd be bad if you gave the impression it was completely acceptable. but i wouldn't make a big deal out of it either. "you shouldn't be looking at that, it objectifies women / we don't allow that in our home / (whatever your reason)", along with a sex talk if you feel its appropriate, and let him make his own decisions about it from then on (he'll probably just try better at not getting caught) - i wouldn't go out of your way to catch him, but still keep an eye on his activity if you are concerned. checking up on him all the time will only embarrass him and he will feel he has no privacy, which is huge for a teenager.
unless it's being done on a family computer and you have other reasons to be concerned about this being on the computer, then i can understand being more strict about it.

anyway, i don't think i would buy him the magazine unless he asked for it. i wouldn't offer it for him as an acceptable replacement. i agree with YourFoxyGrandma or whoever said that it might just send a confusing message, for you to say it is bad one way, then offer another.

also i have no idea what articles in these magazines are like so i can't really comment (though i doubt he'd be that interested in those). but someone said something about how they "teach men how to teach women to respect them" - ok if that is really what these magazines are about, do NOT get it for him.
most guys these days do not know how to treat girls right. period. i would be very careful about providing things to read that might encourage this attitude.
girl: how come you never buy me flowers ?
guy: how come YOU never buy ME flowers ?
very typical these days... it's messed up.

anyway, i don't think porn is bad. but i don't think it is good either. if he wants the mag, i think you should allow it. but i wouldn't necessarily offer it. ?

it is more important to make sure your son knows how to respect women and treat them well than anything. but i do believe that is possible to do and still look at porn sometimes [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img] regardless of how you handle the situation i am sure it will be fine...

[Alobar]

hes 15, let the poor kid wank off.

[daveymck]

To be fair I think some of you young ones misunderstand our agegroup us 30+ers did not have internet porn at 14/15 we had the odd magazine, found parents joy of sex book and maybe a sex scene on a late night show, there was no 24hr on tap hardcore porn like these days. I maybe got the internet at 18/19 ish and it was dial up so bloody hopeless anyway.

Like all these areas Drink etc my preferance would be to give boundries of acceptability, allowing him to explore and experience but without the risks or dangers. In this case maybe giving some acceptable sites or whatever (its hard cos its going to be embarrising). I would rather buy him a subscription to metart or hegre-archives and say that is acceptable than have him roaming free at home or at his mates where it will be out of control.

Its not about his attitude to woman its about the raging hormones and 24 hour thought of sex at that age.

[Patrick del Poker Grande]

The biggest dicks/douchebags in the world are the ones that you can tell took all their life/relationship/douchebaggery cues from Maxim/Stuff/FHM. It depends on how impressionable your kid is, but I'd say if he gets real hooked on Maxim at 15, you're putting him in great danger of being the biggest douchebag you know by the time he's in college. I read Maxim all the time, but I know it's funny and I don't live my life by it. I can't stand the idiots who try to live it out.

I'd agree with the earlier post about Playboy at least pretending to respect the women. I guess the danger there is that if he actually does read the articles and gets hooked on them, you'll end up with a junior Bill Maher - not much better than the Maxim douchebag.

My advice would be to give the old talk about how you don't approve of these things, don't do it in the house, you need to respect women, etc... bust him once, and then look the other way when you catch him on occasion, as long as it's not anything too bad.

[Clarkmeister]

Put me in the "there's way worse stuff on TV" camp. Heck, there's likely worse stuff on a daily basis in his High School.

[Dex]

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most girls these days do not know how to treat guys right. period.

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most guys these days have realized that being pussywhipped is just silly. period.

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Fixed your post. Twice.

[texasholdemnut]

Your lucky, my 15 year old would rather play a video game than have a girlfriend. I'm starting to worry.