how pissed off should i be? - Page 5

[censored] · #1 10-24-2005, 05:41 PM

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does oot need a lesson in reading comprehension

he is talking about being pissed at his girl not the dudes

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It's too incomprehensible to fathom.

On the off off off chance this is the case. Dude put down your stupid ass pride and take care of your girl. Yeah some prick touched your GF's pussy. And? She didn't cheat on you she was assaulted get over your goddamned self.

Rduke55 · #2 10-24-2005, 05:33 PM

Next time find a bouncer and have the bouncer throw them down the stairs.
I'm not kidding.

As it is. You have their number as the guy said above. Either cops or posse of friends.

jason_t · #3 10-24-2005, 05:34 PM

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I am kind of upset with her for not notifying a manager or at least punching/slapping them in the face.

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Dumbass.

If she wants to file assault charges, help her otherwise just leave it.

[censored] · #4 10-24-2005, 05:37 PM

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I am kind of upset with her for not notifying a manager or at least punching/slapping them in the face.

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Dumbass.

If she wants to file assault charges, help her otherwise just leave it.

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Also I'm assuming the question of being pissed off was directed at the pieces of trash who did this to your girlfriend and not her.

nothumb · #5 10-24-2005, 05:40 PM

Your girlfriend was the victim of a sexual assault. There are no two ways about it. You can't be angry with her for how she dealt with it - she was trying to survive the situation, she was in an unfamiliar place and she did the best she could. Be sympathetic, let her know it's not her fault, and do NOT tell her what she could or should have done.

If she wants to take action against these people, support her. If she doesn't, don't make a bunch of threats or talk about hurting these guys. She's already been through one violent incident. You need to let her take control of the situation.

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wacki · #6 10-24-2005, 09:06 PM

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Be sympathetic, let her know it's not her fault, and do NOT tell her what she could or should have done. .....don't make a bunch of threats or talk about hurting these guys.

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Can you please explain this? IMO constructive criticism is often really good as you know what to do next time. I HATE feeling helpless and not knowing what to do makes me feel even more helpless. Also, knowing someone has your back and won't be a pussy when you are in danger is good. So threats (done in the right way) can be feel really good when you feel helpless. Even if it's only a "Man I wish I was there. I may be outnumbered but I would of bit his ear off."

Also, I don't see what's wrong with urging her in filing a complaint. She doesn't have to go to court, she just needs to file a complaint to "protect others that may be in danger". It will build her up and allow her to be a stronger person. She will feel good about it because she's helping others. She can be a "character witness for future victims".

I'm not a woman of course. And I've never been in this womans specific situation but I have been mugged and beaten by group of thieves. I was messed up pretty badly. So I'm very familiar with what goes through a victims mind.

P.S. Nothumb, as always, I love hearing your street wisdom.

DMBFan23 · #7 10-25-2005, 03:09 AM

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Be sympathetic, let her know it's not her fault, and do NOT tell her what she could or should have done. .....don't make a bunch of threats or talk about hurting these guys.

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Can you please explain this? IMO constructive criticism is often really good as you know what to do next time. I HATE feeling helpless and not knowing what to do makes me feel even more helpless. Also, knowing someone has your back and won't be a pussy when you are in danger is good. So threats (done in the right way) can be feel really good when you feel helpless. Even if it's only a "Man I wish I was there. I may be outnumbered but I would of bit his ear off."

Also, I don't see what's wrong with urging her in filing a complaint. She doesn't have to go to court, she just needs to file a complaint to "protect others that may be in danger". It will build her up and allow her to be a stronger person. She will feel good about it because she's helping others. She can be a "character witness for future victims".

I'm not a woman of course. And I've never been in this womans specific situation but I have been mugged and beaten by group of thieves. I was messed up pretty badly. So I'm very familiar with what goes through a victims mind.

P.S. Nothumb, as always, I love hearing your street wisdom.

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IMO it's hard enough for the girl to even tell you in the first place, cause she knows we're gonna get all macho and go do this and do that. she should know that you'll support her if she decides to do anything, but only after she knows that she's in safe hands and being taken care of and you're glad she's ok. if she was looking for advice on how to handle it she'd call her parents.

mslif · #8 10-24-2005, 06:17 PM

I thought about this and came to the conclusion that I would have most likely reacted the same way she did. I am not going to fight two guys, the odds are not in my favor. I will probably try to squeeze my way out as she did. Unfortunately this situation happens too often in clubs. Guys feel the need to grab you because you are on the dance floor. I am sad that she had to go through that.

bernie · #9 10-24-2005, 06:57 PM

Even though I agree with most of your post..

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I am not going to fight two guys, the odds are not in my favor.

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Odds are 2 guys aren't going to beat or rape you in the middle of a club. The odds are greatly in your favor that someone or a couple someones would come and help you.

But that said, the situation does cause many to freeze and just want to get away. Which is perfectly normal and fine to do.

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mslif · #10 10-24-2005, 07:03 PM

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Even though I agree with most of your post..

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I am not going to fight two guys, the odds are not in my favor.

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Odds are 2 guys aren't going to beat or rape you in the middle of a club. The odds are greatly in your favor that someone or a couple someones would come and help you.

But that said, the situation does cause many to freeze and just want to get away. Which is perfectly normal and fine to do.

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Don't be so sure. I was at a club for my birthday in April. A guy grabbed my arm to go dancing, I said no, I got punched in the face. Nobody did anything because it was dark and nearly 90% of the people in the club were drunk. I reported it to the bouncers who tried to find the guy but there were too many people and they could not find him. I have not been back in a club since that happened.