Do you rat out your 16 year old nephew if you think he's toking?

[KDawgCometh]

no. He will be found out on his own in his own time. Its not your place to rat him out

[billyjex]

smoking pot at 16 years old is much more common than you realize.

and why are you browsing your nephew's myspace pages? that's a little creepy, buddy.

[ripdog]

Does your sister really not know? In this day and age? Man, maybe ratting her out for being so dense would be the way to go here. Seriously though, I think your move depends on your relationship with the kid. I think that ratting him out is a gigantic pussy move. If you have any credibility on the subject, talk to him yourself. By credibility I mean that you've smoked a fair amount yourself and have seen the error of your ways. If you were a straight-laced valedictorian type at his age--forget it. Find someone that can relate to the kid and have them approach him. Maybe that's your sister or his dad, maybe not. I would never have forgiven one of my uncle's for tattling on me and I think you'll destroy any shot at a relationship with him if you go the tattle-tail route.

[Maulik]

if the kid is doing it recreationally that's fine. if he's got some wholesome friends, no worries.

where are this kids priorities?

we've seen brillaint potheads at school and kids who fail out of school... likely falls into one or another.

[chabibi]

I’ve been smoking pot excessively since grade 10 and it never did any real damage to my life (other than possibly my health later on). In high school I went to every class blitzed and the same thing in university. Im pretty much high 24/7 but I am not a screw up. I will be graduating university in the spring and I already have a job lined up after graduation. Despite being a heavy drug user, my life is in order. But I could definitely see how even weed could [censored] up someones life. I personally know many people with as frequent a habit as mine. Some have become low lives and some are productive members of society, I think it all depends on the person.

I caught my little brother smoking weed this summer (he’s 15). I never actually caught him red handed I came home and the stem to my bong was missing. When he came home I asked him where it was and he pulled it out of his pocket. I was kind of upset, but I didn’t get angry at him, I took the stem and walked in to the garage and smoked some bowls. I couldn’t really yell at him without being a hypocrite I started puffing at that age. I also trust my brother to make good decisions. High school was the greatest time of my life and being stoned made it a lot better. I want my bro to have a good experience as well, as long as he steps up when it matters. Which I think he will

I guess it all comes down to the kid. If your nephew is a little punk and is clearly headed down the wrong path, rat his ass out. If hes a good kid having some fun and maybe getting a little carried away you could talk to him yourself or let it slide this time, he might fix the problem himself.

TALK TO THE KID!

I did it as a non-authority figure, and they respected me much more for it. The dangers can be well avoided, with some good advice. That is, if the dangers are resultant from naivete, and not from them being a screwup in the first place.

[MonkeeMan]

Call 1-800-NARC. Let them break the news to sis during the big swat operation. They probably won't find her stash.

[The Goober]

You should realize that short of extremely drastic measures neither you nor your sister will ever be able to stop him from smoking weed. All 16 yr old kids go out with their friends unsupervised, and that means that he can smoke if he wants to. Keeping him from ever seeing his friends is going to be nearly impossible and will [censored] him up more than weed could.

This means that your only hope is educate him so he'll make better decisions on his own (like not posting pictures of himself stoned). Whether you or your sister can do this better is something you'll have to figure out.

fwiw I was smoking weed when I was 16, and I think it was actually a good thing for me then (but I was also doing well in school at the time). I got caught once and my dad basically said a) never drive stoned, and b) don't be stupid about this and do it where you could get caught. I took that advice to heart and I'm sure it helped me much more than "drugs are bad, m'kay?" ever would have.

[housenuts]

i answered no to this poll. i didn't really think about it though.

then i realized this is your brother or sister's son. at first i thought it was your cousin's son (don't ask why) in which case i wouldn't. but if it's your brother or sister, i might bring it up. especially if the kid needs direction. i'd also gauge it on how my sibling would react.

[imported_CaseClosed326]

Print out the pictures and leave them around his house. So he knows someone knows. But he is not sure who.