How do you tell your Best Friend his G/F Sucks!

[Asufiji2004]

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...someone sounds jealous

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of what?

[Justin A]

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...someone sounds jealous

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Someone has terrible reading comprehension.

[stanky]

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...someone sounds jealous

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That's what I thought when I read this part
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He is 26, she is 18.


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[Asufiji2004]

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...someone sounds jealous

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That's what I thought when I read this part
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He is 26, she is 18.


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LOL. Believe me I don't envy the immaturity and inability to go into clubs and bars with my g/f. I mean my g/f is 18 has a nice ring to it, but is it all that?

[stanky]

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...someone sounds jealous

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That's what I thought when I read this part
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He is 26, she is 18.


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LOL. Believe me I don't envy the immaturity and inability to go into clubs and bars with my g/f. I mean my g/f is 18 has a nice ring to it, but is it all that?

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Yeah, your right it does sound nice on paper. We sound like we're about the same age (I'm 26) and the only way I would be able to put up with a 18 g/f would be if she lived in another state.

By the way, I feel for you but some times peoples priorities in life change. Your friend might be ready to move on and settle down and start a family. It doesn't mean you can't still be friends it just means you won't see him as often. I think you risk the friendship by telling him his g/f is a problem. I would suggest just letting it go because maybe he'll get sick of her anyway.

Edit: Have you tried the Ask Bison thread [img]/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img]

[Asufiji2004]

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...someone sounds jealous

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That's what I thought when I read this part
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He is 26, she is 18.


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LOL. Believe me I don't envy the immaturity and inability to go into clubs and bars with my g/f. I mean my g/f is 18 has a nice ring to it, but is it all that?

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Yeah, your right it does sound nice on paper. We sound like we're about the same age (I'm 26) and the only way I would be able to put up with a 18 g/f would be if she lived in another state.

By the way, I feel for you but some times peoples priorities in life change. Your friend might be ready to move on and settle down and start a family. It doesn't mean you can't still be friends it just means you won't see him as often. I think you risk the friendship by telling him his g/f is a problem. I would suggest just letting it go because maybe he'll get sick of her anyway.

Edit: Have you tried the Ask Bison thread [img]/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img]

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Yeah i'm 26, and i've considered the fact that he may just be ready to settle down and have a family and maybe she's the "ONE". We really don't hang out much with the exception of these little vacations to Vegas and such. We live like 800 miles from each other. We hang out like once every 2 months, she's just making it less fun and more hassle.

Overall I have to say there has been some good advice in this thread I appreciate it and i'm glad to see i'm not the only one who deals with this. I particularly liked the idea about cancelling and giving excuses about why I can't do stuff. This would actually work with my buddy, only thing is I would never see him, so that would suck.

[Miggo]

He isn't going to listen you telling him anything. You need to get him to realize that she isn't what he wants. How about trying this ...

Cancel the vacation. Tell him you thought that this was going to be a poker vacation because that's what you guys like doing, rather than it turning into a hang out with the girls like it always is when you're not on vacation. Tell him to go ahead and have good time, you just don't want to blow your vacation days on just a weekend of hanging out with the girls.

now whenever he wants to do something, and she's tagging along like always, come up with an excuse. It's gotta be legitimate. Then when you do something with just him, drop some line about having a blast like the good old days before you both had staedy girlfriends. Make sure you tell your girlfriend you're doing this, so that you don't get in trouble.

Eventually he'll dump her. No one can stand being near any one person 24 hours a day. When you go as a group it doesn't give them enough time alone for him to get sick of her. He's gotta make the decision, not you telling him what to do.

Hard to do, but that's just another option to try.

[phage]

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He isn't going to listen you telling him anything. You need to get him to realize that she isn't what he wants. How about trying this ...

Cancel the vacation. Tell him you thought that this was going to be a poker vacation because that's what you guys like doing, rather than it turning into a hang out with the girls like it always is when you're not on vacation. Tell him to go ahead and have good time, you just don't want to blow your vacation days on just a weekend of hanging out with the girls.

now whenever he wants to do something, and she's tagging along like always, come up with an excuse. It's gotta be legitimate.

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This is correct. However, when you do get to hang out without the g/f you may want to avoid discussing her altogether. Just interact like you used to and he will remember how much he enjoyed the good times. If not then he may just prefer the new situation and you have not alienated someone you consider to be a good friend.

[jackdaniels]

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He isn't going to listen you telling him anything. You need to get him to realize that she isn't what he wants. How about trying this ...

Cancel the vacation. Tell him you thought that this was going to be a poker vacation because that's what you guys like doing, rather than it turning into a hang out with the girls like it always is when you're not on vacation. Tell him to go ahead and have good time, you just don't want to blow your vacation days on just a weekend of hanging out with the girls.

now whenever he wants to do something, and she's tagging along like always, come up with an excuse. It's gotta be legitimate. Then when you do something with just him, drop some line about having a blast like the good old days before you both had staedy girlfriends. Make sure you tell your girlfriend you're doing this, so that you don't get in trouble.

Eventually he'll dump her. No one can stand being near any one person 24 hours a day. When you go as a group it doesn't give them enough time alone for him to get sick of her. He's gotta make the decision, not you telling him what to do.

Hard to do, but that's just another option to try.

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Miggo - You are a stranger in these parts and this is the first of your posts that I have read. That said, you gave some pretty damn good advice!

OP - After careful reading of this thread, I have to give 2 thumbs up to the above advice. It definitly covers all bases when it comes to dealing with this situation.

1. Don't alienate friend.
2. Don't turn this into a "it's either her or me"
3. Don't allow her to turn you into the bad guy (by not being one)
4. Let your friend make the ultimate decision - he will anyway, so you may as well put the right information in front of him (good times to be had with friend vs. clingy girlfriend who insists on changing you).

Last but not least you have to accept the fact that your friend may like this new lifestyle of no poker, no privacy and 18 year old pussy. In which case, you may have to simply let go.

Good luck!

[Soul Daddy]

I think it's best to focus on what a douche he is acting like than your personal distaste for her. Try convincing him to stand up for himself a bit. Maybe that will lead to him figuring everything out for himself.