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11-16-2005, 06:12 PM
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Re: My typical day
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[ QUOTE ] I sometimes feel guity spending all my time playing cards instead of doing some real work. But if I had a regular job I don't think I will have any time playing. Tough decision. [/ QUOTE ] Yeah, I'm still ranting on. She feels guilty that she's not doing real work and concerned that a real job would interfere with poker time. Hmmmm - poker or a real job. What about your CHILD? Don't you feel guity that you play poker instead of mother?? Does anyone else with kids have a problem with this?? [/ QUOTE ] I was planning to post something a bit softer, but yes, I agree 100% that if you are taking your kid to day care so you can come home and play poker 5 hours a day then there is an issue. If you "need" to play poker for income (doesn't sound like it, but we don't have all the pieces here) then play AFTER Jr. goes to bed. My day: up at 6:30am. Work 7:30 - 5:00pm. 5-9:30pm, hang out with my daughter and my wife. 9:30 - 1am : multitable 3/6 my wife's day up around 7am 7:30am - 5pm : take care of our daughter * (wife works part time from home - has 2 meetings a week that she brings our daughter to then squeezes in an hour whenever our daughter naps, she also works a full day on Sunday). 5pm - 7pm : RELAX while I hang out with daughter. 7pm - 9:30pm : hang out with me (dinner/talk/tv/etc) I clear just enough every month to cover the gap between what my wife used to make (before she was a mommy) and what she makes now. If you're going to leave your kid at day care then get a real job and make enough to put $$$ away for her college tuition/car/other stuff. FishNChips 
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11-17-2005, 08:38 AM
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Re: My typical day
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[ QUOTE ] I sometimes feel guity spending all my time playing cards instead of doing some real work. But if I had a regular job I don't think I will have any time playing. Tough decision. [/ QUOTE ] Yeah, I'm still ranting on. She feels guilty that she's not doing real work and concerned that a real job would interfere with poker time. Hmmmm - poker or a real job. What about your CHILD? Don't you feel guity that you play poker instead of mother?? Does anyone else with kids have a problem with this?? [/ QUOTE ] Why should she? Should her husband be ashamed that he teaches college instead of being home with his child?
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11-16-2005, 06:07 PM
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Re: My typical day
This is my whole point, playing poker is not like having a job. If I said I put kid in daycare for a job, no problem. Playing poker, oh my god. Even ppl on this board feel this way.
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11-16-2005, 06:16 PM
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Re: My typical day
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This is my whole point, playing poker is not like having a job. If I said I put kid in daycare for a job, no problem. Playing poker, oh my god. Even ppl on this board feel this way. [/ QUOTE ] Look, its your life, do it how you want. I don't think that playing poker all day is a waste of your life, but you asked for opinions and I think it stinks that you drop your kid off at day care so you can play poker. See my other post for more on this, but one of the great things about on-line poker is that the game is ALWAYS there. Hang out with your kid during the day, play poker at night. Your husband can deal with limited time together for a cuple years until Jr. is in school, but these first few years are so huge in your kids development that if you CAN its better to spend the time with the kid. There are plenty of people that would KILL to be able to stay home with their kid but can't. If you are a winning poker player and can make enough to bridge the gap then do it at night. Again, its your choice. But don't ask for opinions if you don't really want them. FishNChips
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#5
11-16-2005, 06:28 PM
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Re: My typical day
I don't have kids...but intend to in the semi-near future.
If I'm still playing poker from home then I would consider this to be an advantage. Maybe I don't undderstand the full realities of it all...but I would think that you can take care of the kid just a little bit while clicking-away online. And my sig-other can pursue her career all she likes while i'm the stay-at-home-dad-who-is-still-making-money. I don't think the OP is nearly as bad as others are making her out to be. I might be inclined to take my kid to day-care every once in awhile just as much for the social-interaction as anything. But this wouldn't be a regular thing if I didn't have to do it of course.
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#6
11-16-2005, 06:37 PM
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Re: My typical day
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I don't have kids...but intend to in the semi-near future. If I'm still playing poker from home then I would consider this to be an advantage. Maybe I don't undderstand the full realities of it all...but I would think that you can take care of the kid just a little bit while clicking-away online. And my sig-other can pursue her career all she likes while i'm the stay-at-home-dad-who-is-still-making-money. I don't think the OP is nearly as bad as others are making her out to be. I might be inclined to take my kid to day-care every once in awhile just as much for the social-interaction as anything. But this wouldn't be a regular thing if I didn't have to do it of course. [/ QUOTE ] Sir: I think that you'll find that taking care of the kid and playing won't mix. I think that there may be a few kids out there that this would work with, but in general, babies/toddlers need way too much attention to make playing at the same time an option. My main issue with OP is: 1 - she could adjust her playing schedule and keep the kid at home 2 - her husband is around sometimes, he could take care of the kid when he's around 3 - it seems like she's choosing to play to make a little extra cash and is using that as an excuse to pawn her kid off (I realize that this may be an inaccurate conclusion, but given the facts as presented this is what I'm coming to). The math was done above, she's just not making that much for the 6-8hrs a day that her child is in day care. Again, its her choice. She can do whatever she wants, but she asked for opinions and now she's getting them. FishNChips
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11-16-2005, 06:38 PM
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Re: My typical day
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Maybe I don't undderstand the full realities of it all...but I would think that you can take care of the kid just a little bit while clicking-away online. [/ QUOTE ] Actually, it's almost impossible. Kids are pretty demanding and when your holding pocket aces HU with a 50% VP$IP player, something will happen and you will have to leave the computer immediately... If I'm home with my kids I try to clear a casino bonus and save the poker for after bed time.
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#8
11-17-2005, 12:50 AM
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Re: My typical day
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If I said I put kid in daycare for a job, no problem. Playing poker, oh my god. Even ppl on this board feel this way. [/ QUOTE ] I don't feel that way...putting this child in daycare full time and letting him be raised by strangers is borderline child abuse, IMO, regardless of the job. I know "everyone" does it. "Everyone" is wrong. If you were a single mom or something, ok. But your husband has a college education, you could live fine on what he makes. If you say you can't I say BS. You simply choose lifestyle over staying home and raising your kid, as most people do, which is wrong. Maybe you can't live in the same size house and drive the same cars and maybe you'd have to cook at home and go out to eat less, etc. but it can be done. You will never get this time back with your son. He needs his mother. There are plenty of ways he can get to play with other kids without being in full time daycare, that is a pathetic cop-out. My wife never worked a day from the time she got pregnant until my son started 1st grade. But she's never at work while he's home. And no I didn't make great money at the time. We made a decision to cut our lifestyle and live on one income. I would work 3 jobs if I had to to keep him out of daycare.
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11-17-2005, 01:00 AM
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Re: My typical day
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[ QUOTE ] This is my whole point, playing poker is not like having a job. If I said I put kid in daycare for a job, no problem. Playing poker, oh my god. Even ppl on this board feel this way. [/ QUOTE ] Look, its your life, do it how you want. I don't think that playing poker all day is a waste of your life, but you asked for opinions and I think it stinks that you drop your kid off at day care so you can play poker. See my other post for more on this, but one of the great things about on-line poker is that the game is ALWAYS there. Hang out with your kid during the day, play poker at night. Your husband can deal with limited time together for a cuple years until Jr. is in school, but these first few years are so huge in your kids development that if you CAN its better to spend the time with the kid. There are plenty of people that would KILL to be able to stay home with their kid but can't. If you are a winning poker player and can make enough to bridge the gap then do it at night. Again, its your choice. But don't ask for opinions if you don't really want them. FishNChips [/ QUOTE ] In what way does it stink. I think it is healthy for a child to interact with other children instead of being home with their mother all the day. There are other benefits besides developing social skills, such as strengthening the immune system.
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#10
11-17-2005, 01:18 AM
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Re: My typical day
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I think it is healthy for a child to interact with other children instead of being home with their mother all the day. There are other benefits besides developing social skills, such as strengthening the immune system. [/ QUOTE ] So take the kid to the park. Take him to play dates with other kids in the neighborhood. Take him to a Mother's Day Out program for 2 hours 2 or 3 times a week. There are other choices in between full time daycare and total seclusion, geez.
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