"Dear bison..." OR "Let me help you help me help you"

[bisonbison]

Dear Joe,

There are a lot of different things you can try - talking to a Mormon minister as a couple, going to talk to a counselor as a couple, you going and talking to a minister on your own, or waiting and seeing how you feel.

But essentially, if you care enough about this to consider breaking up with this woman that you love, then breaking up with this woman that you love is probably the best of the shi[/i]tty options. You want to maintain your integrity and she wants to maintain her integrity and that makes it really hard when they don't coincide, but sometimes people who love each other have hopes and ideals that can't be reconciled.

I'm not interested in discussing Mormomism per se. I imagine she's having the same dilemna you are, so I would sit down with her and say: listen, this is really a big issue for both of us, how can we deal with this?

In the end, if you try to work through it and it doesn't work, you can part (and stay apart for the time being) knowing that you both gave it your best, and that the person you love is being true to themselves.

[bisonbison]

Dear AC,

Detachment and happiness go hand in hand. Power is just an illusion of happiness.

[bisonbison]

Dear DC,

Write her a letter, ask her if she wants you to call. Dropping by (5 states away) is likely to turn her life into a shi[/i]tty dramabomb.

3s and 2s balances the risk-reward of the 3 pointer pretty well, without eliminating the value of the short range jumper and the layup.

[bisonbison]

Dear SC,

"Dad, I've done the research, and I believe I can support myself playing poker full time." Know your likely hours, know your range of likely earnings, explain your BR, BB/100 and RoR. Be prepared for him not to care.

You're an adult, and as long as you can afford your own place he'll have to deal one way or another (this doesn't mean he'll talk to you).

[uw_madtown]

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Dear Madtown,

The ADHOC challenge is dumb. Stupendously dumb. Fantastically dumb. Eating contest dumb. At the end of the ADHOC challenge you will feel like the dumbest and greatest man that ever walked the face of the earth.

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Given that my friends and I regularly get into eating contests, this is right up my alley. I can't wait...

[fimbulwinter]

Stolen from another message board

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I am a devout Catholic. I will be leaving for a job in Tennessee after graduation. In college, I have had a girlfriend for three years. We both know we're done after graduation. She wants sex. All oral thus far, so I do too; one problem: I fully expect my wife to be a virgin. No way the current GF will be the wife. Bang her?

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and paraphrased to eliminate suck.

fim

[razor]

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and that makes it impossible when they don't coincide

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FYP

[bisonbison]

Dear Hizo,

There's no such thing as settling for someone, but the fact that you could look at the woman you're in a relationship with and think "I'm settling" is probably a good indication that there's not a lot there. Break up with her. You're doing her a favor.

[bisonbison]

Dear Fim,

If you want to be a hypocritical jackass, the least you can do is tell her before you have sex so that she can dump you first.

[bisonbison]

No, it's not impossible. It's just harder.